One last thing.
The Buddha does not teach there is NO Self.
Only that our experiences (or clinging to our experiences)are subject to the 3 characteristics of impermanence, non-self and dhukka.

You can agree I think that those you love are not you, are not forever and are subject to changes that will rock your boat so to speak?
Dhukka can mean any kind of stress that will rock your peace of mind.

WIth Love
Eelco