[7luminaries]

Originally Posted by JustBe

So JB, have you anything you care to share regarding your own challenges and obstructions to manifesting lovingkindness? Particularly with those situations where you cannot or prefer not to disengage (parents, children, close family & friends). If not, no worries...

Peace & blessings
7L

Originally Posted by JustBe

Sure.

I stay very present with what is and can seperate the external from myself. How they behave is not about my loving kindness in me. I see through loving kindness eyes. It’s been as I’ve mentioned, reflecting deeper if I’m still reacting to the external. To let all threads attached to others behaviours go in me. I don’t purposely trying to be loving kindness. I’m just being myself. I’m still wondering why you would be striving for something towards your blocks externally, when all blocks and struggles are ones own in the face of others. Reactions mean I am reacting to something of the other as myself. So what part of you are you struggling with in you through your father? If you don’t mind me asking.? One only has to sit close their eyes and drop into their being and listen to that answer arising in truth of you. Everything is within you for the external struggles. I’ve made peace in me with all family struggles against me, reacting in me. It’s been a conscious walk and direct experience to face myself, my hurt, my anger, my lack..whatever opens in me more complete back to peace in me as I am. My true nature is loving kindness. I walk as that. I don’t have to force being myself, it’s effortless. I know myself. I like myself. It’s easy to just be myself now.

Many still realising their true nature are still practicing the teachings to become them. I feel my true nature is realized in me, through the work I’ve done. As I shared actualisation for me is not putting into practice but just being what I now can be as all true nature attributes include. Life is all so different, everyone is unique. It’s only about how I move in the world as I am and am aware of as myself. In this way I meet life where life is and just respond as Myself moment to moment. Just being me..:)

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JustBe, hello there! TBH I brought this up to keep the discussion real and grounded. Most of all, to keep it concrete and personal...based on personal challenges in unavoidable, difficult contexts and relationships.

The struggle, or simply the journey, is ultimately simply to be with oneself more truly and more deeply. I think that's what you're saying as well.

However, to discuss this in the abstract does not, I feel, get to the heart of it. Rather, it's only when we actively and regularly engage and situate ourselves variously, that we more deeply understand what this means on the ground, day-to-day.

It's often most acute or unavoidable (same thing) when we must deal or engage with others who may be unkind or unbalanced. Who may be even pointedly and consciously so and perhaps even specifically when dealing with certain relationships (their parents, their children, their employees, etc).

So...TBH...I do understand more deeply than most how limited some folks are (like my dad). He can be regularly petty and unkind and irregularly unstable and unpredictable. And yet I see that what gains he has made have required all his meagre efforts. Whereas so many linger in the same spaces with all the gifts of the world at their fingertips, unused or misaligned. It's all relative, truly.

But it's in these relationships and contexts where our mettle is most truly tested. And that's why it's those unavoidable, difficult, challenging relationships and contexts that I wanted to share and discuss, with regard to being and doing lovingkindness on the ground.

And it's those same things I would be very interested in hearing about from others, as well

Peace & blessings
7L