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Originally Posted by Baile
Also, when all is said and done, your life is about you and nobody else. You can have empathy for your grandmother, but her issues are hers, and are not your issues. An important life lesson every healthy person learns is how to stand up to people who knowingly or unknowingly pressure you and weigh you down. You can start by getting rid of all the easy and unconscious ways she is allowed to do that -- get rid of your phone as I said, or change your phone number so she can't text. But tell her you're doing it, and why. That way she at least understands your thinking and cannot hold it against you. And she may even learn something, and possibly even begin to change for the better. Honesty and openness are always very important; they are healing change-agents in fact.
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Indeed. I am an empath, so setting boundaries is a lesson I have learned the hard way, but it is worth it. Thank you so much for the advice you've taken time to give me.
