I am a self-harmer as well, though I'm not as frequent. Since I was 11, I have had bouts of anger that drive me to hit myself in the head, and I have also cut myself or stabbed with a push pin a few times. I am a survivor of child abuse, I also have eating problems and problems with obsessions... for too long I have spent my life polarized, sorting out the negative and the positive and what to do with it. Only now am I seeking the balance through my spirituality. I still do catch myself when I'm throwing a hitting fit or screaming or physically attacking inanimate objects, though I understand it as a flaw and don't try to stop it all together, but I believe with acceptance and understanding of why I do the things I do, they slowly go away or decrease in frequency.