A little late in giving you my two cents but here I am.
Self love is a hard thing to learn. But it can be done. Separate the wounded part of you. Think of it as your inner child. Look at her. All bruised and tattered from all her trauma.
Your heart will go out to her. You will feel compassion and a sense of wanting to protect her.
Do just that, in your mind take her in your arms as a mother would her child and give her the neutering she never had. Give her a warm bubble bath, bandage her wounds, brush the tangles from her hair and dress her in the prettiest dress you can find.