Greetings SoulSista! You pose an interesting question.
I wouldn’t sound the alarm bells just yet. Raul seems like a stand-up guy who takes his responsibilities seriously, including prior commitments. From what you say in paragraph 1, you have a fun, challenging, non-judgmental relationship. Who can ask for more? And why introduce judgement at this point?
It’s true, men get an easy excuse to cop out when they know it’s our time of the month. I am acquainted with that scenario, haha! But I also find it hard to blame them, due to their conditioning - plus, our whacky hormones don’t always pretty up the picture exactly...
I’ve often wondered what it would be like to be in relationship with a guy who pandered to all my requests. I think I would find it icky.
Give yourself some time to sort out those issues which leave you sobbing on the sofa.
That is my opinion.
