Gentler manner? Nah..Very good posts, enjoyed reading them.

I too see it as wrong to not love yourself. To not strive to be strong as well. You are wronging yourself. Your perception and strength is a choice and no one can change that but you. One should not feel sorry for another but lead by example or encourage them to do their best with what they have as others are able to do. But of course there are times when every man/woman needs help or guidance at some point and that's human. No one is an island, we are all interconnected. A grown adult I feel should be confident in themselves though, or at least work on finding the positive aspects of themselves. A damaged individual should seek help from strong people that are willing to offer counsel. There are tons of rehabilitated addicts or other previously damaged people that found their strength within and are willing to help others find it. Strength and love are powerful together.

The Jimmy Hendrix quote could be one answer for this question. There are abstract universal laws that cannot be denied, whether the source is in the heart of us all or some external force. Wisdom is tried and tested truth.