Perhaps it is not that fact of having a TF that is the "disorder" but the longing for your TF. One should be happy with oneself and not long so deeply for another. If someone is truly at the right point to become one with their TF, wouldn't they be so happy with theirselves that they would not long for this reunion and it would happen by itself. It is the growing and learning spiritually that consumes you not the TF aspect?...?