He is not your TF, plain and simple.
One day he might start beating you up for not agreeing with him.

There is no point in asking why. If he is that kind of man he will not change, least of all by you or for you.

Don't be one of the woman who will one days say "all the signs were there".

Get rid of him.

Watch Leslie Morgan Steiner's presentation on TED : "Why domestic violence victims don't leave"