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wow Still_Waters I had this convo not an hour ago!
Was speaking with a family member this weekend, one who failed to visit an ailing, now dead, mother in law in four years except for bdays and Xmas (an hour and half drive. Really? Couldn't be bothered while yet you were drawing thousands of dollars a month from her?) ANYHOO was listening to this person brag how she didn't need to meditate because she had now internalized love and light within her (!)
WOW how amazingly ignorant of her own selfishness, was my thought, with a few choice adjectives, as I judged her.
Then I took another step back. Why was I judging her? Doesn't that make me as dark as she is, in that moment to start saying "Hey I'm so much better than she is, because I showed up and took care of said relative?" Resentment is a pretty low energy vibe, after all
Better I guess just to step back one step AGAIN and try to feel compassion for her, doing the best she can, and compassion for myself, struggling with emotional exhaustion & resentment post death, post hospice.
Sooo hard not to judge!
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