Hey 7L, a thoughtful and well-articulated response as always
And you're right, of course, that for many of us to simply feel isn't so straightforward as it sounds on paper, because we've suffered severe trauma in the past and this has caused us to employ spontaneous coping strategies such as dissociation; quite often people will simply reach a point at which they can no longer keep their suffering at bay, and then it overwhelms them, causing them to have a breakdown, say, or violently lash out in extremely destructive ways. So to have support networks in place that offer love, compassion, and understanding is vital if we're truly to heal. We do ultimately need to feel in order to heal, though we may need those support networks in place in order to reach that point, depending on the nature of our wounds and our inner stability.