The "self" people fight with you because you fight with you.
You are constantly at odds with yourself and you keep running from what you need to learn. you need to learn to accept yourself. once you do, you will accept others. right now you do not accept others. this shows by your need to correct everything to your way of thinking. to bring everyone down or up to your level of thought.

Some people need to learn the wrong way in order to recognize that it was wrong. so let them learn.