Honestly, ValVan?

It's no connection - a reaching out from you yes but without a receptor, no connection.

We own our emotions and it's up to us to deal with them. It's SO important to get this guy out of your being so you don't waste your life waiting around for something unlikely to happen. Obsession like any other addiction is spiritually unhealthy and draining.

You must try everything you can to banish him from your firmament. Find things about him you didn't like (no one's perfect so there will be things); when he comes to mind in your wakeful consciousness visualise yourself hurling a bolt of energy to vaporise him. There are ways.

This is where so many of these so-called theories fail. They don't tell you what to do when something like this goes wrong. They encourage the disgustingly unhealthy pretence that it'll all be well in the end. That eventually you'll be in union. Just wait around...this lifetime or some other one in the future. How many lifetimes are you willing to just fritter?

Good luck.