[7luminaries]

Originally Posted by ocean breeze

I'm simply listing things that turn me off. I've yet to judge anyone's character. I'm not looking to date anyone on or offline so my post shouldn't really concern anyone. I'm too busy fulfilling my passions so its hard to really commit to anyone. And if a person is interested in me, its wiser to start off as friends before getting serious.



I'm pretty sure many wouldn't make such a judgement about me. How narrow-minded that would be of them. Its not something that concerns me though.



I guess it depends on what is considered as weak and spineless. I wouldn't know what type of person would be good for me or i for them. I can only understand my preference. My likes and dislikes.

I know i've mentioned i don't care for one who is too serious but that doesn't mean that i don't want a person to take the relationship seriously. This time if i do get involved with someone i want them to take it seriously. No more games, no more lies.

Yawn, hahaha No need to defend any of this on my account.
I've offered my opinion purely for your consideration, that's all, no more and no less. This is what I was trying to say on that...

If you are ready to be peppy, pleasant, and/or non-serious as a rule, then IMO you are free to request it from others as a rule. Same as any other trait you prefer or admire in people and in potential friends, like strength or courage. Of course, that's not a 24/7 "guarantee", hahaha...but it does at least speak to your integrity.

Otherwise it sounds like (you may not intend this, of course) you perhaps are looking to be/need to be minded or entertained by someone. Someone who needs to be in a certain kind of mood or who must display a certain type of behaviour to pacify or please you. I'm not saying folks don't do this all the time or try to (LOL), but IMO no one is "the king of the world" and no one gets to stipulate any preferences or demands that they themselves are not willing and able to freely offer. You can also try substituting something else, like "kindness" or "honesty", to get this point.

Moreover, generally, a one-sided approach is probably not going to attract the self-respecting and/or the types who would be "serious about a relationship", including real friendship. You've got to be willing to walk the walk and give what you're seeking, particularly in the 21st century.

Again, just food for thought, purely for consideration. You'll figure it out, no doubt

Peace & blessings
7L