As I understand it there is not a meaning to all that happens but we have to find meaning in all that happens. I get that when we choose a live we have a good overview of what might happen yet this is not the same as what will happen. I see it as us all getting a script but we are allowed to improvise. If one then improvises then others have to improvise and then on and then on... hope that gives somekind of meaning. I believe that destiny is what was overall supposed to happen and fate is what do happen, so it is not always our destiny becomes our fate. My best friend was suppose to be with his soul mate but when he finally met her he had a child with his girl friend, so his fate was not his destiny. Hope that makes some kind of sense