l to believe that you chose were you wish to spend your next incarnation and to what family you want to be born into.l also believe we can't remember all the life times we have incarnated into because if we remembered every death,horrific or not and remembered all the deaths of all the loved ones we lost including children.How do you think your objective mind would handle it,think how you feel after loosing some one close to you in this life time,what the grief does to you,then think of that grief a million fold.Your objective mind could not handle it.l believe our soul personality remembers every life time and brings with it into each life time the lessons learned,l feel this is how we evolve,but it keeps hidden the loss and heart break of each life from our objective mind.