I just spoke to him on the phone and he said he's having to dig as deep as he can to try and let go of the longing he's feeling - he said in two weeks he had hoped it would get easier. It he said its not - I just can't understand when neither of us deny what it is how the heck we let go of it the more we try the worse it's getting and his family will suffer and my family too because I'm shutting down from everyone...I Thankyou for yr kind words and understanding - he is going to call me after his meeting and I'm not sure what to say at this point ...