Originally Posted by leadville
I was going on what you wrote and it sounded like you were angry at your parents' motives for having a baby, a baby who eventually became you.
This is going to sting and you'll likely be angry at what I say but please remember I'm telling you only what I have told others. I'm not out to hurt you but this will be direct and honest. I know you'll likely reject what I say but I'll be failing us both if I don't say it.
Your parents are responsible for the way they brought you up and cared for you - or failed to care about you. They are not responsible for providing the opportunity you used to incarnate. They are not responsible for your being in this world but they may be responsible if they've failed to care for you the way they should have. You know the full story but I don't.
I won't say you're wrong in believing as you do because you could be right - I just don't know. What I will say is that folk have kids for all manner of reasons or for none at all - they just happen along as a direct consequence of the hard-wired sex drive humans feel. Some parents plan carefully and bring their kids up as well as they can. Some don't...... My guess is that many parents don't consider (quote) "....everything that could go wrong when deciding to have spawn of their own." I'm not defending your parents just saying your accusation could apply to many other parents, perhaps most.
I'm totally confident you did choose..... On 'my other website' we've discussed and debated this issue of choice. It also involved the guidance of a discarnate teacher. You are alive because you chose to incarnate into this particular world. I don't know what else you chose for your life experiences but nobody is forced to come here. I'm sorry if that hurts but I can't change it and I won't lie to make it easier.
Thank you but based on what I'm telling you it may not have been just "good luck". I won't make things fit and I have been reluctant and resistant to accepting about myself the same principle I've explained to you. But many years on I've accepted that no matter how far-fetched it seems, it doesn't make it untrue.
I'll discuss it with you if you wish, either here or elsewhere. If it offends your reason please reject what I've said.
My parents haven't really failed me, especially my mother who made sure I'd have enough money to at least take care of myself. They aren't bad people in the long run. I'm just saying that deciding to have a spawn under any circumstances is purely a selfish motive. There is stuff going on that's beyond their control, which itself is also a risk when having kids. There are fates more miserable than death. You don't necessarily have to be dead to experience hell, as it is a state of being.
Believe what you want. I, on the other hand, am quite confident that I did not choose any of this nonsense. Rather, I'm more inclined to believe I was forced or blackmailed into this life. Hypothetically speaking, if what you say is true, then I can't wait to meet this so-called discarnate teacher again. In fact, I've already rehearsed everything I want to say and do to them, and I can quite assure you it won't be a pretty sight.