Originally Posted by Lorelyen
That's why I think it's important for Rue11 to insulate herself, develop an indifference and self-sufficiency; take up diversionary interests, etc., until the time comes to take off - or by setting her example the guy becomes far more appreciative and a reconciliation of minds is possible. She needs in private to visualise how she'd like her life to go without revealing too much to the guy, just let him observe her in a new light, if he's capable.
Thank you. I think that's what I will have to do for the time being. I would love to build up our love again but it feels almost impossible when he is not the affectionate type and I have basically lost all loving feelings toward him. I used to be a very affectionate person but I have lost that in the past few years. Rebuilding that within myself separately from him must be the answer.