yes people can change...

BUT...

has he changed. is he pretending he changed, or does he really believe hes changed but he really hasnt... i remembr how many times in rehab i really thought i had changed, but i haddnt...

you'r going to have to hash it all the way out imo... go through evrythng... cover evrythng... turn over evry rock... and when you think you have looked at evry nook and cranny... start anew... day one, page one...