While practicing meditation - you are letting go. While focusing on the breath, your mind releases its grasping and suffering falls away, constantly bringing yourself back to this when you see the grasping of the mind, is how . . . when thoughts and feelings arise, about your children, or anything, let them rise, express what you need to express in the moment you are faced with the situation . . . when the situation ends return to the breath to release the grasping . . . simple isn't it

when it comes to the ability to do this - the more you practice the more efficient you will become at the practice