True.
I suppose as I've always done things the hard way,
I just assumed it was the only way anyone else should do it.
But I forgot he's assaulting your girlfriend as well, which means it's not an isolated matter.
I myself have always done it alone, so I have no right to judge you for wanting it gone as soon as possible by any means possible.

But the only thing that has worked for me is persistently throwing love at it. Sometimes it will come at another angle and mess with my focus, but then I jump right back on the horse.
Personally I just can't help it, I love every little soul.

So I'm sorry my advice may not be helpful enough in your current situation.
Hopefully something I've said might be of use at some point.
I would love to take zia off your hands if I knew how.
But otherwise I'm sending you both love, light and hope.
I believe in you, you guys have got this!
(I'll still be watching the thread in case I see something to comment on)