MorningMist, I'm going thru a similar situation as yourself right now and I would equally love to hear the answers to the questions you ask... no-one can really say if our soul connections are in fact twin flames, or not... i guess we will only really know this on the other side or a deep knowing within us... a lot of pain seems to go hand in hand with these connections and, I am told, it is part of the process... a process that is meant to heal and help us grow... I am still in the midst of a lot of pain and trying, like yourself, to make sense of this, if I ever will... please pm me if you need to talk more...