It is my experience that we do have a choice whether to incarnate or not. I think an important thing to remember though is that our time in our true home can be hundreds to thousands of years in length.It is my understanding that in order to ascend we must go through our lifetimes learning the lessons we have set before us. As we grow as incarnated souls we advance further in the spiritual world so the drive to incarnate for some is stronger than others. Some souls find happiness just as they are where others want to grow closer to The Divine Creator of The Universe. I am not saying that those who choose to stay in spirit are not closely connected to the Source of all Things but we can aspire to be completely enfolded in God Light and become part of the whole.

This is my experience as it was in my Life Between Lives Regression...I can only speak from my own personal experience.