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Hi, lemex, :) I would say suffering is not exactly selfishness, but rather self-centeredness.
Grief for years is a very deep suffering...a knife in the heart.
It can come from guilt, regret or it can stir up the person's intrinsic low self-esteem...it feeds it....either case
they are centering on themselves...way too much, from my experience.
FIRST thing I advise my friends is please -do a super good thing for others to 'get out of yourself all the time',
(like the homeless, the poor....
I usually say get outside and staple $5 dollar bills in laundromats and Bus benches and trees where the homeless hang out all day...
it can really change a person.)
I mean YEARS they are crying from divorces or a spouse's death, for example.
The person they miss has moved on.
It's terrible for all of us to watch...the crying and sobbing many yrs later like it was yesterday, omg.
Yet, they are not selfish and never have been.
Just my exp - maybe a semantic issue.
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Prepare yourself for the coming astral journey of death by daily riding in the balloon of God-perception.
Through delusion you are perceiving yourself as a bundle of flesh and bones, which at best is a nest of troubles.
Meditate unceasingly, that you may quickly behold yourself as the Infinite Essence, free from every form of misery. ~Paramahansa's Guru's Guru.
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