And not only learned behavior -but, yes, when people are raised with being ignore, neglected, beaten,
demeaned...they are SO wounded, hurt - often unable to have 'normal healthy, thriving' relationships with
neighbors, partners, pets....because the pain just pours out of them as anger...example is your everyday road rage.
green1, a story for you.
An older lady was angry almost every time I saw her - usually because of the traffic. OMG was she mad, furious!
I said, after 5 times..''Ya know you seem like as a child you had some pretty heavy trauma...that you're now
taking out on people that don't use their signals''
It's being blown out of proportion
She said , Nope.
Of course, I pressed a bit...pretty soon she's crying her eyes out!!
Her story--- that at first she said 'didn't bother' her ...then the crying started...
So she is 4 years old, the family is at a restaurant - she picks up her ice cream bowl to lick. Her mother SLAPS HER FACE!
She has carried this pain for 6 decades stuffed down in her making
her
lash out unreasonably all over the place, complaining , irritable with a short fuse....unconsciously.
Having compassion for mean, bad people to me shows wisdom.
(While not condoning the behavior, of course.)
From my experience.