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Originally Posted by tommylama
When we cannot forgive someone, we are placing our self above another person.
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...Or beyond another person.
To the ordinary person, forgiving another is often giving them a licence to commit whatever their offence was against you or others again....unless true penitence is shown. Even then, if forgiven it might be best to give the person a wide berth.
Forgiveness is only applicable if someone has caused some kind of injury or put you to a disadvantage. The extent might guide your response.
If someone beat the hell out of me and knocked my front teeth out, how could I forgive him or if I did, have anything further to do with him?
If I lend someone money and they don't repay I might well forgive if the circumstances suggest they are unable to repay but should I lend them more?
I read news reports of domestic abuse, murders, stalking. I've seen a few things in my town. To forgive the culprits, as I say, is licensing them to continue. One risks becoming a doormat.
Forgiving when undeniable penitence is shown is fine, however.
So I have a different view. Is there anything wrong with someone placing themselves above someone else?
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