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Originally Posted by Phoenix_Dawn
What do I do to help someone who is spiritually bypassing and becoming physically ill because they are rejecting their human self?
I don't know how to help someone when they reject doing shadow work and they want to fart rainbows and glitter...because it's necessary to face your darkness and transmute it into light to build that foundation for healing.
Otherwise you're just denying and repressing and not living in your truth!
I intuitively understand that they are not feeling well and there's this interplay with them rejecting their own body and embodied self as a result...
How do I help them heal when they are clearly fixated on their health issue while also being in denial about the negative feelings that this brings up?
I have done shadow work with people who were ready and willing and it worked out, but what do I do with someone who is in denial and in the space of shame at the same time?
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Hi there, I've been a typical supresser of my own negative emotions and I thought I was fine so...I can actually relate to the type of person you are describing...If I would for instance loose a parent I would work myself exhausted and take care of everything else and everyone else and not listen if people told me to slow down. I could not afford to grieve. I was afraid of the pain. Often fear is behind.
I think what you have done is the right thing. All you can do is say it, and you have. Then it is up to that person to either wake up or continue on the same path as before.
My personal experience is that we can't blame others for us not healing, we have to do our own part, own your own.
People can help but you have to be the one open and the one doing the work.
So from everything you describe you have done the right thing. There is nothing more you can do.
I for one was raised by parents who never forgave. Stubborn as hell. I thought always I was just different, that I was softer. Well, I wasn't. I was just like them. I too let painful memory play over and over again as if it was written in stone. So you can imagine how easy it would be for a guy to be in a relationship with me or try to make up again? Not that easy...
We are all on our own path and we all wake up in our own time.
You could say I have told you this and you are not open to it, there for we can not at this stage be helping you (or something like it). All in it's own time.
Free will rule - always, but sadly too to give one the choice to stay in darkness or try to find the light.