Everyone has their own bed to sleep in and wake up in come morning. Some are born with more empathy than others. Some develop hypervigilance through trauma, which drives them to seek out people and situations to fawn over, thus giving the gratification of helping another even if it leaves the 'healer' empty. Some probably don't even realize they heal others.

I'm not sure if healers consciously decide to be healers, but I do think people make the conscious choice of whether they want to heal themselves or not. Does that make sense?

But yea I feel it in my hands too. You might consider looking into reiki or tai chi.

To me, being a healer is kind of a funny burden. I'm still learning how to differentiate between my anxiety and what I feel radiating off of others. Guess I'd heal it the same either way. Deep breath, transmute, work those hands under the table so people don't think I'm a weirdo:)