Thank you so much Colorado for your reply. Sad you have gone through same thing, but your're right, a relationship where one feel like a hostage to only adjust to someone else is no good. You're right he is actually a total narcissist but does not see that even, demanding blood from other people but still thinking it is less than he demands, but in return never giving in return. Amazing when I think of it. I believe this is the first time in my life where I have been so "head strong" and not given in to "compromising", in my case meaning taking the blame, swallowing. It is like an inner struggle to me, actually, ha ha to stand up for myself for once. I am the little sister so I watched him grow up spoiled and that his words was more important than mine was, me being used to being scuffed to the side. But he lacked the good parts in him that big brother ought to have developed sooner or later hopefully. I agree with everything you say. Thank you again for your power-words :)