Sorry to hear about that. Personally, I've had many close ones/family die and none but two of them appeared to me in a visitation dream. I like to think that spirits can't just randomly appear to people, as much as they want to because of certain rules. In fact, I think IF they do appear to you whether it be in a dream or somehow else, it is exceptional and rather uncommon.
EDIT: my bad I didn't notice the reply you placed above. Good to hear that something did happen after all.
For the king for the land for the mountains
for the green valleys where dragons fly
for the glory the power to win the black lord
I will search for the emerald sword