Simple: look happy and confident!
You want to win friends, get a better job, get more opportunities and even get served faster at Burger King? Simple, no tablets or surgery, no course to buy: look happy and confident.
According to various polls and studies over the last 30 years and more, visually happy, confident, well-adjusted people get offered more opportunities, more promotions, get served faster, get more respect and even seem to have better luck than those less well-adjusted among us. Also, the simple act of displaying how you feel, whether to someone else or just yourself, is very, very powerful, because it creates your mental state. Sustaining a tell, such as a frown, keeps you feeling the emotions that caused it. It's a little like a feedback system. You feel down, you show it as a tell. But sustaining the tell keeps you feeling down and makes the depression grow even deeper. You display a stronger tell in response, etc, etc. You can cause yourself just as many problems with the tells you put on in pretense of something as you do with 'real' signals. For example, you might be hoping to take the afternoon off work and are pretending to have a cold or headache. After just a very short period of pretense you really will start to feel off-color or even quite ill, simply by reproducing the signals associated with illness. Now what's so incredible about this of course is that you are meant to be the one doing the fooling here. You aren't doing this to a subject who has no knowledge of suggestion, you know you aren't ill. All you're doing is play-acting with the full knowledge that you aren't really sick at all. But the acting out of the correct posture, expression and voice of an ill person will be based on your previous knowledge of what it's like to be ill. In simply acting out how it feels to be ill you're inflicting some of the actual symptoms of illness upon yourself. You just start to feel a bit off-color at first, then suggestion does the rest. You create, even in the face of your own knowledge of your actual well-being, a real illness. |
Re the first part of your post. I think it can only go so far if it's not genuine. Underlying issues if not dealt with will leak.
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It's my Subconscious mind that is making me feel inadequate.
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In which case delve into the root causes of these feelings of inadequacy to bring them into conscious awareness. Then you can start to release them. For most people these root causes have their origin in childhood experiences and how we were treated by our parents. Bringing these subconscious feelings to the surface may require professional help, for example hypnotherapy. Just be aware that some therapists are better than others, so find one whom you are happy with. Regarding the original post, there is truth in this. At the same time, it is difficult to sustain a cheerful confident outlook if our subconscious is sending us messages that we are inadequate and unworthy and we do not deserve happiness. For me, this has always been the issue with using affirmations. Many of us may affirm one thing while our subconscious is telling us the opposite. At some point we need to deal with any self-sabotaging subconscious tendencies. Peace |
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The way I understand it, everything I perceive is my own subconscious' creation. My subconscious co-creates a reality with all other co-participants, but that isn't a reality that "there is", but a blueprint. |
So I have to be a fake person in order to win friends and respect? No thanks, I'd rather be friends with someone who takes me for who I truly am. To be frank, I've had enough of that phony sh#t where I have to act contrary to my principles in order to get a date or to get people to like me. And then I'm not even speaking about depression and social anxiety, which makes it impossible to force a smile at will.
I'd like to add: Why would I even WANT to live up to such high demands of others? |
I have to agree with Iamthat,
But slayer of light has a point.if people cant take you for what you are they are not worth knowing Namaste |
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If we get to the very root of consciousness contraction, we would find that we are in the delusion that we are only a mind-body ... at least for the duration of indulgence in that befuddled or limited state. The natural habitat of consciousness is cessation, which is a state of bliss & silence. Joyful, centred tranquility. We are where our attention is at. About choosing resonation with chosen vibration as an affirmation, if you will, the reason for so choosing ... if the intent be to emote an aura of power or happiness, with a view to boosting ego or inducing others to be drawn towards us ... the motive is again mind-body or identity centric. A bubble of illusion, doomed to burst. As such, what this means is that we should genuinely & voluntarily shift the fulcrum of awareness manifested as flowing attention from head to heart. From self to Self. Then in fact, having transcended the mind-body apparatus, in as far as association with it is concerned, the need for affirmations is obviated. All becomes love. As it always was, as it is. *** |
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I hope I'm not getting too personal with you all . :hug: :smile: |
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@ girlsearching ... the fear of abandonment mirrored with desire to be appreciated, recognised, valued. Unless we first love ourselves unconditionally, we cannot be free of these fears. It is hard, when parents are involved, since we look on them as an infallible anchor, a refuge. Yet, what is, is. iamthat has already given you the clues. Expand your heart and let it sing the love song in uninhibited joy! *** |
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