I was the same until I read a book called 'father healing.' Literally everything that once attracted me to older men like my father dissipated (Thank god)! I recommend figuring out what it is that you are attracted to. Unless your parents are good people then you have nothing to worry about.

No I shouldn't have these preconceived notions based on my own experiences of upbringing that's not fair at all .

I could never be attracted to any guy that resembles my father or has a similar personality to his. I don't have the best relationship with my father as it is. I mean the dynamic could change but I would have to take the initiative . Anyway I don't want anyone like my parents.

Here's a shot-in-the-dark suggestion, and please be advised that I have no idea what I am talking about when it comes to Freudian matters like this.

Ok here goes..... Try introducing this person to your parents. If your parents don't like this person then they probably see a part of themselves in this person that they don't like, which means, you are probably subconsciously rebelling from your parents.

If they do like this person then it could be a myriad of reasons why you find this person attractive. In this case you're going to have to pinpoint the traits that are similar, and do some inner work on why you find each trait attractive.

We can only speculate but "deep down" you have the answer.

Hello

I would look to what aspects of childhood and the relationship with your parents you need to clear and maybe move on from. The attraction could be more a life path lesson on not making the same mistakes.

Lynn

hmmm this is tricky honestlly my dad is a really wise man a smart man but he chose a path of drugs and alcohol that led to being in and out of prison pretty much all my life and right now he is currently out and has been out of the joint for quite a few years and i am happy for him but there is still that part of me that thinks he will eventually end up there again. with saying that i could not date a man like that big turn off.

I think this.

It needs to be released in a safe way.

I don't have the best relationship with my Dad. I don't think I'd want to be attracted to someone who resembles my dad in any shape; physical appearance wise, mannerisms, characteristics ect. But you know what is weird ? that ironically there is this one particular west coast rap group that I listen to and some of the members remind me of my dad . I'm not at state of growing and maturing and I have "Father Issues" I hate that term and I don't need to be with a potential partner who has their life together and is on a higher vibration frequency. I have to work on my myself, and I don't want to bring that type of unresolved baggage and dump it on to anyone if I ever got into a relationship it would not be fair.

Last couple of months made me realized I have "daddy issues". I used to think those are reserved for women but it seems not.

My dad was great father and always there but he was also a broken man with addiction problems. So subconsciously i think i was always into broken women, couldn't save daddy so save someone else. Of course that's impossible, everyone can only save themselves.

But here is the twist- i actually never went for a broken one because i was always too smart for my own good. Probably the reason it took me this long to figure it out. So all my relationships were kind of "meh". Not too bad but not to great either, was I really into it? Deep down, no.

Parents...what can you do.