How to not be attracted to someone who resembles your parents
It's automatic. I can't help it. I am always deeply attracted and fall in love with someone who are like my parents. I don't know what to do.
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You may be partially attracted to a person who resembles your parents because it may help you feel more secure. If that's the case you may be able to lessen the that type of attraction gradually over time. If the attraction is wholly hardwired then there is little you can do to change it. In that case it's light a light switch either on or off. I know several women who are attracted to guys who are like their father I guess it's common.
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It was both my parents combined in one person and it was a difficult decision. I ended up leaving the person because it was too distracting and confusing. I couldn't function well not even proceed with the friendship it was too intense.
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Yikers. Girls do seem to go for their father types. But guys go for the exact opposite of their mothers
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Maybe it's like a split with you too, Galtrav. If a parent was neglecting or absent or mean part of the time people often look for a partner who can heal that split. The child develops a sense that they caused it - because ironically that gives them a sense of control and hope, and they can end up with a lifelong drive to repeat the relationship until they get the loving side of the parent back. |
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Subconscious mind needs a quick release - both mentally and emotionally. You keep being triggered until you have cleared yourself. |
I don't want anyone with similar traits or the same zodiac sign a Aries as my father. I'd rather not deal with any guy born under that sign period.
I don't have any standards cause I don't know what I'm looking for in a ideal partner yet I have not been in a relationship to know what I want. I'm in the process for the first time of being in a relationship with myself . |
I don’t think you can initially control whom you find attractive..
What you CAN do is not act upon it any further or generate those feelings upwards through meditation.:wink: But is it 'bad' though to fall in love with someone who resembles your parents? Are there perhaps positive characteristics in your parents that you would like to see in others? Quote:
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Hi @GalTrav, speaking from a Buddhist perspective, you can contemplate "is a relationship with this person for my long term benefit"? Then it might be easier to ignore the attraction (that you will feel on the short term whether you like it or not :-) ).
Best regards, Maarten |
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