Acquaintances are Better than Friends
Instead of friends, it's better to have acquaintances only. It has to do with the Buddhist practice of Non-attachment.
Because suffering is caused by emotional attachment. Let's say you have a friend, and that friend either dies or abandons you. The result is that you suffer deep sorrow. And the closer the attachment was, the worse the sorrow becomes. As you can see, it's better to have acquaintances only. Buddhist-Nonattachment. |
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I think this can be a very harsh place to live, this physical earth, so to adopt an animal to care for, well one can't guarantee that animal will not suffer in various ways while under your care which is kind of traumatic to witness. That's like having kids too. You may have to watch them get or be really sick etc. But then I think it is very spiritual to care for another. To put their needs over your own. Having children and raising them right, meeting their needs and loving and nurturing them takes a lot of not being selfish or self centered. But yes some very self centered selfish types have kids and animals, not the best environments. I've had a lot of pets and I don't think I'd ever want to go through it again. I don't like the design of this physical planet and what exists on it. I agree with Buddhism, it really is a place designed to create suffering for living things in a lot of ways. A lot of religious types like monks and nuns decide to not have romantic relationships. I will always remember a lecture by A. C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada. I can't remember it exactly but it was like: If you get a wife or husband then you get children. If you get children you will need to spend money for their food and shelter. To spend money you will need to get a job... and on and on it went....one of his points was a better way to be was to be free to keep your attention on "God" all day. No other responsibilities or demands. But then that's what some monks and nuns do. |
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@Cribbage...I would simply like to say ... not being Buddhist, but I like Buddhism...I really understand what you're saying.
I think it was brave to say it...because you prob knew you would get kick back. |
I agree with sky :icon_thumright:
In spiritual practice or as adopted as a way of life in mindfulness, in my view it is not negation that is required but celebration, in a mode of embrace and release, intimate yet nonchalant like the breeze. Why fear friendship, intimacy, closeness? Feeling ourself being breathed by God or let us say, the universe, is not each in-breath life giving and enlivening, each out-breath, ego-dissolution in surrender? Likewise, let us hold tenderly all relationships, even the casual smile to a stranger like the vibrant void that holds existence in its womb with affection and yet remains detached. Just thoughts … great line of inquiry, Cribbage. |
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And yet He was married for 32 years with 5 children before He decided to 'retire' from family life... I presume He thought it was a 'job' and decided to change it. |
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Your post reminded me of this video and Buddhist channel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bNTY...=WordsofWisdom I can recommend this channel, a lot of perspectives applicable to daily life. |
Is it not better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all ?
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