Making peace with your past
 

A thread about making peace with your past might not seem like one that belongs on this subforum, but they do say you need to heal before you come into union with your twin flame. At first this didn't seem like so necessary to me, but I've come to reason that twin flames are like magnets and attract each other when the time is right, maybe when we fit perfectly and maybe at separation we don't exactly fit and we need to work on ourselves. That's how we attracted each other in the first place, when we worked on enough on ourselves and only our twin flames could bring about more changes within us.

Anyway, how did you come to make peace with certain parts of your past? Maybe you didn't like yourself back then... how did you come to to view a negative event or string of events as a good thing? I know this is vague but maybe someone will give me some good advice.

Thanks :)

Probably by practising and fostering self compassion.

This is just in general life... Not for a specific purpose of attracting anyone or anything...

Realising I am human and by design I make mistakes - extending the same compassion I apply to loved ones to myself as well.

Treat myself how I'd like to be treated... as if I am my own parent - I want my inner parent to be compassionate and encouraging and forgiving not critical, judmental and withholding of conditioned love.

There are some good talks about self compassion on YouTube.

I think what emerald said is good another thing u be like that was apart of ur journey or whatever u once did, maybe u learnt something from it but tomorrow or even today is a new day.

Was gonna add/write more maybe later g2g

I was willfully ignorant of how terribly I was treated growing up. I used to say I had subzero self esteem, but did i really? I was pretty beat down by the world, but I never really cried about it, more dissociated than anything.

It may be a coincidence, but after meeting someone, I quickly came to grips with reality. I cried.

Overall, I made peace with my past. Its been quite an expedited evolution.

sounds like you've really made sense of it. And you sound like you were a strong child - much props to you for that. Can I ask how this person was associated with you coming to grips with reality?

I have no idea lol. Its just shortly after meeting this person, I experienced a subconscious purge of sorts, my trip "home" is happening so quickly. I know I had some type of feelings for him, so maybe im seeing an association where there is none.