Originally Posted by lil_Jean
Well we are having financial issues. The this is HIS issue, i'm sorry but do not fall into a trap of giving someone money until you trust 100 percent you will get it back lover or not, if it's a husband thats different a boyfriend is dodgy ground, my motto, if you can't afford to loose it, don't lend it, unless someones dying. This pretty much will save you many arguments later.
I have money and he has none. I hold him accountable yet help in the same. I made him put his truck up for collaterall for a loan to pay off his accruing debt. The vehicle/loan is in my name. When he couldn't make payment on it, I became responsible. So I told him to sell it or surrender it. He lied to me on 1/2/12 saying he was going to sell it to a friend (who I talked to that hasn't talked to TF in months). Instead he ran off with his ex-girlfriend who was supposedly getting beat up by her bf and needed help.i think this is bad behaviour, you need to tell him that hurts you and you Whatever. I believe him when he says they didn't do anything intimate in the week he was with her not answering my calls, but the fact that he was deceitful about the whole thing is frustrating. I paid off the truck loan. [COLOR="rgb(255, 0, 255)"]BIG BIG MISTAKE, THIS IS HEADING FOR DISASTER, please stop giving this guy any of your money tf, soul connection, whatever, you are not accountable to pay for his things right now, especially when he is being deceitful to you. He should not be asking you to be honest im angry at him! but you are enabling his bad behaviour to continue and he's not going to learnt he things he needs to learn! [/color]He's worked a little bit and used his earnings to buy me gifts throughout the couple weeks we've been back. But he just up and does whatever he wants and doesn't tell me anything. Last night we went out for dinner. He was going to go get gas for his truck and ended up at a buddies house for an hour?!?!?!/! wth. How can you trust someone that does that. So I locked the doors. He doesn't live with me but likes to think he does. I mean who knows if TF is coming or going... EVER.[COLOR="rgb(255, 0, 255)"]you have trust issues, he is abusing them, ifhe wants to stop at a mates for an hour i think thats cool? he just needs to drop you a little text to say he's doing that, if your scared he's with another woman, then you don't trust him and maybe thats what you are being given lessons to get over?[/color] I can't tell if he's honest or lying. He told me he could lie right to my face but doesn't cause he loves me. Now I have trust issues and am just supposed to forget about it when it takes 1.5 hours to run and get gas a block away. Sick of it. Sick of trying to trust him when he treats me like ****. So I told him today I was leaving town for the weekend and he can have a taste of his own medicine. Now all of a sudden I'm so emotionally abusive and **** because I am acting like him. Whatever. Over it. He's 33 and won't ever grow up.
Sorry I'm ranting. I know I'm new here but I'm new to the whole TF aspect of things. I just get so frustrated and can't take it. There's no talking once we start pushing like this. Maybe it will need another 5 year break in there for us to mature enough individually to rejoin physically. Who knows? I just know I can't do this.
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