Please I need to know the answer
 

Last 3 years nothing came into my experience.

I tried and tried. Exhausted all the options I can to try to get a date with a women.

For all my life I've never had women.

I've never had a date ever and no female friendships for over 10 years.

Online dating, no dates in over 700 messages and I'm doing things properly.

I talk to psychics all the time. I still get nothing for years. Maybe I'm subconsciously affected by the family bullying.

It seems like one emotionally cruel experience. I'm unlucky. Only sadness in my experience. Nothing. I'm a nice guy.

No one I know as ever had this cruel, sad, painful luck with women and life. I only get the harsh, sad 'view'.

I have nothing nice happen to me. I could be worthy, I could be well educated, have good qualities. I could read 16 law of attraction books years ago. I analysed and analysed over the years. It could be how my sister treats me and my family who bully, ostracise me deliberately, act mean etc.

I'm very confused, I was told in another lifetime I'll have it easy and have good things happen. Definitely one of the cruellest lives anyone can live.

I was told I'm spiritually tested and its testing my strength.

Maybe this will help you:

You want to win friends, get a better job, get more opportunities and even get served faster at Burger King? Simple, no tablets or surgery, no course to buy: look happy and confident.
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Check this thread: http://www.spiritualforums.com/vb/sh...d.php?t=135134

You may be unhappy and frustrated but I question whether you are really experiencing one of the cruellest lives anyone can live. You just have to turn on your TV to see lives of real suffering and hardship.

All your posts seem to focus on the things you feel you lack in life and your upbringing of being a victim of family bullying. If you focus on these things then that is what manifests in your life.

Why not be grateful for all the good things in your life? Wake up each morning and give thanks for all your blessings. Let go of your story of victimhood, stop seeing psychics and take charge of changing your own life right now.

Your life can change, but it starts with you.

Peace

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Sincerely, what makes you think that spiritual practices will provide answers?
That old chestnut from Dale Carnegie, "How to Win Friends and Influence People" might be a good read.

It's about being optimistic, positive, affirmative and considering how you present yourself in your milieu. You have to be ready to 'fit in' with whatever situation you want to be in.
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Hi. I have a boatload of sons! And to me they are all beautiful. But one in particular, from being very young was the one that I knew was going to break a lot of hearts. He had everything. He could have been a male model, plus he had the lovely personality to go with it. A real catch for any female. And yet he was unlucky in love. He watched his brothers having long term loving relationships, and no-one for him. He used to talk to me about it often. And then.... Just when you blink, he met someone, fell in love, bought a house with her and now have a beautiful 2 yr old boy. The apple of grandma's eye...my first and only grandchild up to now. And his brothers are lagging far behind!!! Have you heard the story of the tortoise and the hare?.... Dont despair. And don't give up. Focus only on what you do have, not what you don't... And think of yourself in a positive light, as that is what the universe hears, and that in turn is the message you create and emulate to the world.

Nice post Elfin.:smile:

Thank you.

Thank you very much all for your kind and lovely responses. I appreciate all of this.

Try this exercise recommended by Seth:

Seth: Natural Hypnosis Exercise
Seth, Nature of Personal Reality, Session 658, Page 315
To read the full message, follow this link:

https://sethabequotes.blogspot.com/2...-exercise.html

Ok thank you very much for this inavalen.

Some people's minds are very picky. How someone else looks (or how much money they have or how successful they are) is very important to them. I know a guy who never could get a girlfriend. He would occasionally mention to friends he liked some girl and they would immediately tell him she was "ugly" and not worth pursuing. He got very depressed and told me he gave up, he would be alone his whole life and he was fine with it. But it was obvious he was not fine with it.

Well randomly he was in another city for work and was lonely so he was looking through some online dating site on his phone and he messaged a girl. She agreed to meet him as she was near his hotel. Well he waited out there for over an hour. Finally he saw a girl walking across the street who looked like the girl and he messaged her. She answered back, "I am fat and ugly and you don't want to meet me." She then ran off. He followed her around that city for hours talking to her and finally they met. They have been very happily together a year now and are very much in love.

A lot of dating and relationships are "ego" based. How much money somebody has, how good looking they are, plays into it. But then we can also be attracted to how nice and kind and loving someone is. I remember being 18 and working at a gas station and going to a club with a co-worker and these attractive females were talking with us, then my friend blurted out where we worked and the females looked at each other, made faces, and walked off.

I'd also point out many monks and nuns choose to not have "spouses" and live happy and fulfilling lives. Statistics say something like 50% of marriages fail. So finding and maintaining a happy loving relationship with another is not necessarily an easy or always pleasurable thing.

Hi. A lovely statement and very true. People are often quick to judge. For me it's always about getting to know the person as a personality, not by appearance. For in real terms it is the soul we are connecting with. It makes me think of Simon west*ern... Served in the army and was severely badly burnt. He had no face left. After several years of re-consteuctive surgery he started several charities, and eventually fell in love with one of his charity workers. A very lovely and attractive young woman. She did not care that he was badly scarred and disfigured . She only saw his beauty. They married and had several children. I feel that anyone that judges a person on how they look, or how rich they are, are not realistically the type of people we would want in our lives anyway, and obviously a relationship failed to doom.