Spiritual Forums - Deceased family member

Awhile back, in 2016...I posted about a young relative of mine who died in Vietnam at 20 years old. It's been awhile...so I'm going to repost the story. I would like your feedback on what you think or know spiritually on the subject.

About 10 years or so, ago...I had a young man, that I had never met, or heard of...enter into my dream. Actually, he had shown up in my dreams many times ...but I either didn't focus or pay attention to him, or because he didn't talk.

These would be random, jumbled, senseless dreams..
But he would be standing to the far left, silent.

There would be many pointless dreams...where I would walk right passed him in the dream, but not stop or talk to him.

Most of what I remember, is of him being in a hazy grey form, almost a smokey, hazy form.

The last time I can remember dreaming of him...he was standing, silent ly to the left as usual...
But the dream, this is weird...went from being an unconscious, jumbled up, meaningless dream....to being almost lucid. I consciously, in the second...took notice, and focused on him...because he became a reoccurring figure in the meaningless dreams.

I said...as I looked at him, "who are you?"

There was this energy(or telepathic communication of energy, I think I read this off of him because I have some psychic abilities) that clearly said "20 year old male"

I could see hazily, his grey smokey like figure...and his stature, age and sex.
But he did not speak, he just held up a neon yellow blinking sign, the kind you see at bars or hotels years ago....that read "1968"

That's all I had. The year, "1968"

I woke up right after.

After that, I would find pennies all over the place with the same year.

I wasn't born until 1978. I did not know who this person was, but their energy did feel familiar...like I had felt them before, especially as a small child.

I talked to my dad...I asked if anybody had died in 1968, and he said no. I asked him if we had any young males die in our family...he said no.

Now, I did not know if 1968 was the year this young man died, I was basically guessing that's why he showed me that year in my dream, call it instincts...but it could have referred to anything really.

I didn't even know if this guy existed, or if this was just a dream...all I knew was that I was at least going to ask, and see.

Dad didn't know nothing.

A few weeks later, I was talking to my mom....now, my mom has not been in my life since I was 5 years old really....her and my dad divorced when I was a toddler, and she moved away.

But as I got older, I kept in touch with her, here and there.

So I asked her the same thing...by chance, just to see...and she said, yes...my great grandmother on her dad's side, died that year. I told her no....specifically, a young male, about 20 years old. She said no...I went on to tell her about the dreams, and this young man...hoping to jog her memory, but no...there was no such person.

So clearly, this was just a dream.

It was awhile later, when my great grandfather died...maybe a year or 2...I don't remember exactly.

I went to his funeral ( I was close to him when I was small, and I also got a visitation from him the night he died) His body was brought to our state for burial.

By this time, I had dropped the subject on the young male in the dreams...figuring it was just dreams.

But, I was basically surfing the internet one day...and decided to look up my great grandpas obituary. It was posted online.

I was reading the top of his obituary, where it gives his name, birthplace and other personal details. And at the end of the first paragraph, it said he was preceded or proceeded in death, by his wife, two sons, and a grandson.

I zeroed in on the two sons, curious as to who they were...as it gave their names..

Particularly, one son...because it said my grandfather was a WW2 veteran, and he proceeded his son in death..
Who died in Quang Nam, Vietnam in 1968.

When I looked up the name of his son..
Everything matched the boy in the dreams...He was born 11-16-1947, and died 9-19-1968. A 20 year old male, and 1968...and he was a marine, and his whole battalion was killed by enemy fire.

Shocked, of course ...that this was real, he did exist, and that my in mother did not remember him, as he was her uncle.

I don't know...looking back...it always bothered me, that he was in a smokey, grey hazy form.

I have seen spirits and deceased people before...but never in grey hazy form. They have always been illuminated in color, bright, and or energetic looking, I could clearly see they were light/energy.

But this young boy, who died at a very young age, a casualty of war, in a far off foreign land away from his family....was a violent death, and was in a dark hazy smokey grey form.

I don't know if he needed help, or if he still needs help...I'm not sure what his form meant....was he in depression, was he lost, I still don't know what to make of this...

I do pray for him, I do get signs here and there...1968, tags with Vietnam on personal items, and things like that...

But why was his appearance different than the others I have seen....when they were illuminated in energy and light....while his was smokey and grey?

What could that mean...

Also looking back, I think he's tried to get my attention before...one night while sleeping on the couch, I clearly heard boots walking on the laminated floor clear as day...and then, as I ignored it, they picked up a kitchen chair, and slammed it on the floor, moderately...not being mean, but wanting attention. This woke up my son too...who was sleeping in a lazy boy chair across from me.

There's other stuff like that, that was going on for years. I have some psychic abilities, different kinds...so I didn't put it all together...because different things happen, so I thought it could be anyones energy I was picking up on.