What are the right assertions to make in life? (relationships)
 

There's an awful lot of 'shoulds' in there... nothing is manditory, nothing is set in stone. Use your common sense and learn how to apply compassion and unconditional love. Most of all, love and trust yourself. The rest will follow.

My own 'self love' should come first do you think? If I can't like myself then nor can others sort of thing..?:confused:
To tell you the truth I live like a hermit, although I am married (happily):smile: My relationships with friends and family turned sour a long time ago... should I learn to trust them again? Or am I just inviting them to batter me all over again?:confused:

Loving Others Doesn't Mean Putting Up With Abuse Or Disrespect
 

TRUST your self & your judgment. Accepting self comes first. When we have a healthy self esteem if others choose to treat us poorly it will be viewed as their issue, not ours.

Being based in love & Oneness doesn’t mean that we have to or SHOULD abandon our discernment. We & others are at all levels of our/their journey. Being based in love means that we all realize our interconnectedness being all on the same journey. It doesn’t mean we are obligated to be a doormat to those who would treat us poorly. We can love the person for their humanity & place they are in w/ their journey, but be firm about insisting that we be treated respectfully.

We have many options between the polarity of all or nothing in trust completely or trust no one. Interact w/ friends & family if you want to. Not if you don’t want to. Relationships are a 2 way street & can be on all levels of interaction.

I've liked what you've pointed out there, I think I'm somewhat disturbed at how life has treated me..:confused: I can remember as a boy I felt great love for everyone..and I want to get back to that.. I must really..
I understand attraction now, I understand that the more I insist people maltreat me, the more they're going to maltreat me!:icon_eek:
I think perhaps I'm feeling very hurt and I don't know how to make the hurt go away.?:confused:

I thankyou again for your interest!:hug3:

When life has kicked you into touch in so many ways including in relationships the natural thing to do is drop the shutters. After a while you come to terms with what it was all about and you look within for the answers to "life" and what it taught you up until the time you shut down. Some time later you feel the power that you are.. spirit power. Now let them diss you, break your heart, and take you to the cleaners. Guess what, you want to tell them everything.. the whys the wherefors and the reasons. This is your spiritual power.. earned, forged in the fire. So now they cannot hurt you, damage you or take away the power of the spirit within. In my words "you have arrived". A shining soul, ready willing and able. Take this what you have and give to others. Indestructable, relentless and without end. This is your Spirit talking.

Ok enough already!

G.

yep

our ability to respond , is certainly 'forged by fire'

having experienced , as most , i'm sure , a similar song line ... at the end of the day , i can only be me

and be me i shall

now , comfortably.


'know thyself'







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love all others, the world, etc with charity, and be detached,be non personal about it... love closely only those who are close to you, your family, your significant other, etc., generally speaking, there is no way to avoid some degree of attachment, but even with your close ones, detachment can be necessary at times depending on the situation and intent of yourself and others...

It's less about 'sefl love' and more about self respect, but it is true that if you don't like yourself, then that is what you show to others and they will in turn act upon that impression.

Your relationships turned sour... so ask yourself why? Are they deserving of your trust? Would they respect you more now than before if you showed them a different person? (Bear in mind that families especially tend to put you in a box and rarely accept that you could be someone different... )

What did you show those people about yourself? Remember, you can't change them, only yourself - so have you so far? Are you willing to make the change, to open your heart again? Are they worth it or are you better to look to new friends and 'family'?

This above all things... to thine own self be true.