I used to get it a lot worse, but my SC (I've decided to just use "soul connection" for now - seems to be a good all-purpose term) entered his "dark night of the soul period and really, really withdrew inside himself. It's hard sometimes to feel him at all right now - at least most of the time. Another thing that happened is that I had a massive energy discharge about a week ago - I had sort of a revelation about the whole experience with him and how I'm supposed to handle it from here on out, and before I knew it I had energy shooting up through my head, out my hands, and literally heaving out my mouth (a very strange sensation, I might say). Afterwards I felt completely emptied out, but not in a depressed empty way, more peaceful, like everything was good and right in the universe - the way it was supposed to be.

That discharge has smoothed everything out for me - I miss him terribly but it's not the gut-wrenching type of thing I had previously, and when I do feel the pull it's more, well, refined (for lack of a better word). I'm much more able to deal with the idea that it might be awhile before I see him again. Don't get me wrong - I feel as strongly for him as ever but the best way I can describe what's happened is that my spirituality seems to be taking precedence over my impulsivity and emotions.

What I think got me to this piont (and the point of the energy discharge) is a lot of work I've been doing. Breathwork, doing meditation while listening to crystal singing bowl music, chakra clearing meditations, and I'm nurturing the tiny starting seeds of a spiritual practice involving dance and authentic movement.

I really, really recommend any and all forms of this type of work to anyone overwhelmed with the "pull" or other apsects of the connection - the benefit it's had for me is impossible to overstate.

Chartreuse, it's great to work on your own spiritual path...it's as necessary as breathing, really...

I just wanted to mention that during the "dark periods", it's really helpful to send love & light, prayers, etc., to your soul connection. And also send it to yourself.

Sometimes as you confront your fears or get down to some of your soul work, you (or in this case your partner) may find yourself (himself) in a bad place...it's like spiritual or emotional lock-down...and here the love is a lifeline...even if it takes a while to reach him. Trust me, it will. I've been where he is...thank God no one gave up on me.

Peace & blessings,
7L

Thank you for saying this...I've been starting to do this just a little, but I have to make sure I'm in a good place myself each time. I want to make sure I can just send very positive energy - love and light, and acceptance - and not energy tainted with expectations or yearning or, well, whining.

I have some reason to know for myself and have gotten multiple verfications from psychics that he is indeed in a very bad place right now; in the words of one, he is "pained, distracted, and beaten down." He's obviously got a lot of stuff coming up now; I want very much to help him in any way I can and right now the ONLY ways are to keep myself in as good a place as possible and send energetically to him what I can, so thanks again for the validation and the reminder in general!

I think of it as the soul kind of waking up to the realization that it is looking for its other half if you will. I believe that the pulling feeling is like your heart pulling your soulmate/tf and you together. Sort of like a magnet pulling two people together, letting them know that the ache in their heart is their other half missing. Then they each will meet one another when the timing is right when they least expect it.

That sounds about right to me.

Tell you what, I might have spoken too soon about the pull having gotten more "refined."

I'm not sure what's changed because I'm still in a good place emotionally, but yesterday and today, every time I thought of him (so, you know, pretty much all the time) the physical sensation in my chest has been like 10x more than it EVER was before. I feel like my heart's about to shove it's way right out of my chest cavity - it's not unpleasant, but it is definitely distracting in the extreme.

Wonder if that means he's thinking of me too? Or I'm closer to seeing him again than I think?

I was wondering that too. It's been almost a year since we got in contact (and contact stopped) yet I didn't even start feeling that pull until this month.It's gotten pretty noticeable too.

but is it the soul pulling beyond the body, indepeddent of the mind or in tandmen with the ocnscioulsy thinking personality pulling

Maybe a bit of both. Sometimes I feel it even when I'm not thinking of him.

but when you feel the pull, it is the twin/soulmate/other part is it not ?