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Brucely 07-03-2017 05:12 AM

How do u cope?
 
How does one live a normal life when youve seen/experienced something that defies logic or just rational thought. And i mean anything like war PTSD, aliens, visions, etc. something that makes normal seem pointless

And normal life meaning: chasing money, going out with friends, etc

Lucky 1 08-03-2017 04:13 AM

Well..not sure if I'm qualified to answer.....I've definitely had and witnessed some strange and hard to explain things and events........but on the other hand l enjoy the regular stuff a whole lot!!

Rozie 08-03-2017 06:20 AM

It takes a bit of adjustment. If you comparing it to war or PTSD, it would be similar. A person would process their trauma or their experience and compartmentalize. That is what PTSD is like. The trauma is stored in a pandoras box and there is some amnesia if the event is very disturbing.

You asked how 'you' cope, and that is pretty much how I cope. I try to be as rational as possible despite the bizarre nature if the experience. It is about acceptance and I have a system in place to deal with it.

I could have common interests with 'regular people' but I cannot hide who I am. If someone is accepting then we don't have to talk about it. If they are dismissive and disparaging then I would avoid them.

PlatitudePluto 01-04-2017 04:41 AM

Well I can only speak for myself, but I have no friends and no longer any nearby relatives, so it's fairly easy for me to live my life the way I want without other peoples' opinions and judgment. It may sound sad but I think of it as less to have to explain and justify.

wstein 01-04-2017 06:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Brucely
How does one live a normal life when youve seen/experienced something that defies logic or just rational thought. And i mean anything like war PTSD, aliens, visions, etc. something that makes normal seem pointless

And normal life meaning: chasing money, going out with friends, etc

You are coping right now with things not being 'rational'. Look around, is it rational that a dog looks like a dog? That's just what a dog looks like, you are used to it. Think back to an early time you went to the zoo. There were all sorts of strange animals you had never seen before. Now if you go to the zoo, most of the animals are familiar and don't seem so odd any more. So, this is not an issue about 'rational'.

Not trying to minimize your situation as there are several parts of the situation that will require some adjustment.
-life isn't what you thought it to be, this can be a shock after so many years of being convinced it was a certain way
-you are reeling because the meaning you assigned life has been taken away. This was only possible because you relied on external things and sources to establish that meaning in the first place.
-you are now in a minority and out of sync with what society officially believes (or at least claims to), an out cast

At this point you can't really live a 'normal life' (as defined by society), the best you can do there is to 'fit it'. Hopefully you can find a few like souls (like here on the forums) to share with.

A way forward is to get in touch with who you actually are, get to know your divine nature, that will help establish what has purpose or meaning for you, that can not be taken away by a peculiar revelation or shift in perspective. There are many ways to achieve this, the most common method is meditation.

lilith 01-04-2017 08:26 AM

Balance is the key. When I first started digging in paranormal I didn't have anybody to share with and my experiences were pretty intense. Thank god for this forum that probably saved my life back then. I kind of led double life. I was exploring things online, and still had that old normal identity with everyone else in real life. As time passed by, I met people who resonate with my true self and managed to integrate all parts of me. Now I enjoy having fun with friends doing ordinary things as much as I enjoy spiritual stuff. When I felt confident being alone in both, coping wasn't necessary anymore. Beginnings can be tough and we're there for you. Blessings.

Dargor 01-04-2017 08:46 AM

Well I have experienced some weird paranormal stuff (possibly) but I cope just fine with it because those experiences didn't change my view about how meaingless and pointless life really is.

Seawolf 01-04-2017 08:01 PM

It depends on what you've experienced. I would say with most things you can just go on with your life like normal. You just have that experience, and it's just another memory, although if it's 'supernatural' it's a little different than other memories.

If it's trauma/abuse though, you need help to be able to recover. Otherwise you will have a tough life if you don't have therapy, a support system, learning self care, meditation, yoga, etc.

Some things like seeing an alien can be traumatizing too, and I think the best thing is just to not focus on it too much. Not denying it, or trying block it out of the mind, because that will just make it worse, but to just not focus on it, especially before you go to bed.

blackraven 04-04-2017 12:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Seawolf
It depends on what you've experienced. I would say with most things you can just go on with your life like normal. You just have that experience, and it's just another memory, although if it's 'supernatural' it's a little different than other memories.

If it's trauma/abuse though, you need help to be able to recover. Otherwise you will have a tough life if you don't have therapy, a support system, learning self care, meditation, yoga, etc.

Some things like seeing an alien can be traumatizing too, and I think the best thing is just to not focus on it too much. Not denying it, or trying block it out of the mind, because that will just make it worse, but to just not focus on it, especially before you go to bed.


Seawolf gave good advice above. Just wanted to add, from experience, that one has to tread carefully to not remove oneself from the everyday living experiences no matter how mundane they may feel after experiencing things such as visions for example. I once became so engrossed with the paranormal that it bordered on paranoia. It also occupied too much of my attention to the detriment of others around me that didn't understand what I was experiencing.

I think the conclusion I came to was that the phenomenal occurrences I experienced didn't need to consume me over other responsibilities, which also include carrying on with relationships with others despite their lack of belief in my experiences. I learned to let things stay warm on the back burner, but not let it boil over into everyday life. After all, most unexplained phenomenon (everything from visions to supernatural or paranormal events) just can't hurt one as long as one doesn't let these types of things take over their life.

As for traumatic things that cause mental anguish, I agree with Seawolf, that those things are in a different category altogether and need to be addressed with diligence as pain and suffering is a reality in life and can't just be brushed under the rug.

Brucely 05-04-2017 03:46 AM

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Originally Posted by blackraven
Seawolf gave good advice above. Just wanted to add, from experience, that one has to tread carefully to not remove oneself from the everyday living experiences no matter how mundane they may feel after experiencing things such as visions for example. I once became so engrossed with the paranormal that it bordered on paranoia. It also occupied too much of my attention to the detriment of others around me that didn't understand what I was experiencing.

I think the conclusion I came to was that the phenomenal occurrences I experienced didn't need to consume me over other responsibilities, which also include carrying on with relationships with others despite their lack of belief in my experiences. I learned to let things stay warm on the back burner, but not let it boil over into everyday life. After all, most unexplained phenomenon (everything from visions to supernatural or paranormal events) just can't hurt one as long as one doesn't let these types of things take over their life.

As for traumatic things that cause mental anguish, I agree with Seawolf, that those things are in a different category altogether and need to be addressed with diligence as pain and suffering is a reality in life and can't just be brushed under the rug.


Thats good advice. I guess our world is just as weird as ghosts/et life. All the desensitizing of gore and murders in media could help ppl cope. That was dumb of me to say 'normal life' because everyone is different. Who knows how a killer copes, or the homeless, or a priest who sees angels. Every life is interesting to somebodys eyes


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