How To Remove Unwanted People From Your Life "L.O.A. Style”
 

Is there someone you can’t stand? Wanna get rid of them? Well then look no further because I know of a fun contract-destroying exercise. In this exercise, you get to breach an interpersonal contract, all the while loving every minute of it. The way to do this is to raise your vibrations.

First of all, the reason you are in a rut is when you first met this person you either did not show this person any love or you flat-out did not like this person at all. Simultaneously, this person also didn’t express or feel any love for you or express any positive energy towards you, whatsoever. It might have been more subtle where you were minding your own business and ended up being a target.

Whatever the circumstances are, the two of you have a vibe clash. The cause can be transparent or something on a deep subconscious level. Regardless of your case, you still had something to do with this bond. If you showed love or expressed positive energies, and that person accepted it, you would have bonded in a positive way. However, if you projected positive energy on a deep level and that person chose not to accept it, then you both would have repelled.

Firstly, you need to realize that action alone “or being nice” isn't the recipe for being an admirable individual. The recipe is to have a genuine affinity for other people while having a genuine affinity for yourself as well. When you show a genuine affinity for another person, they will feel it and know it. When this affinity for yourself and others is your truth, and you feel it, others will feel it too and feel comfortable in your presence. It must come from the heart, not from the brain or from the norm of what you should do and what should make you get along with others.

Anyway, let's go back to that relationship where the two of you hate each other. You both do not express any love for each other and because of this, you are both engaged in a very unpleasant relationship, contract bond. That said, here is how to get out. I want you to get out a piece of paper. Next, you are to write all the things you like about that person. I am aware that pouring sand in your eyes seems like a more pleasant experience than this. However, it is imperative that you understand this so you don't make this mistake again.

You are to think of this person and try to locate as many similarities as you can. You are to look for similarities that make you both attractive and strong. You should also seek admirable qualities in this person you wish you could improve on. After that, find the similarities in both of you that need work and aren't so attractive. Don't only find what's unattractive in that person because that's what got you into this mess. Only find the unattractive traits that you know for a fact you both have. You will more than likely find alpha traits in that person you also have. You more than likely will find things you don't like about yourself that the other person most likely dislikes in his or herself too. However, that's not of your concern.

((Your primary concern is to find all the things that make you two alike, both good and bad.))

Stay more focused on the good traits, but stay aware of the dark side in the two of you that are similar. Become aware that the two of you struggle with the same issues as a result of your dark sides and as a result of living in this world. General things like the similarities in age, nationality, and profession should also be included. The way to overcome blockages (if you are struggling with this) is to think of that person sitting with you on your couch in your living room. After that, think of yourself in their living room, sitting on their couch. You will have to be imaginative when imagining their living room as I'm sure the two of you never socially bonded on this level. After you can do that and be comfortable, you can begin your list.

I would like to emphasize that I'm not suggesting you force yourself to be kind to this person or do much different than you have been doing unless what you are doing is mean or negatively aggressive. The only thing I'm asking you to do is recognize that person’s exceptional qualities and what makes you two alike, then feel it. That is all you have to do. The word “tolerate” doesn't exist in the world of deliberate manifestation. Tolerating means you're going to put up with it, and you're going to suffer in silence. Tolerating nonsense is not what I'm suggesting you put yourself through. I am suggesting you stay focused on the good traits and similarities. There is no need to change a thing. Deal with this person as usual, but with your new state of mind. Read your list until you can feel that bond whenever you think of this person.

Keep reading your notes until every time you think of that person you recognize and feel their great qualities and how similar the two of you are. An amazing thing will happen if you do this correctly. That person will disappear out of your life in a way that you no longer interact with him or her. In rare cases, you might get along with that person, but that's usually not the case because that person typically won't be willing to see the better side of you. Love being the universal winner will cause that person to move away from you. In some cases, you might find yourself moving up to a better area, or a better position, or a better situation that is away from that person.

Keep in mind that after you start this exercise you may notice you act differently around this person. You may notice you respond to this person or speak to this person differently. You may also notice that you are suddenly able to avoid this person effortlessly. By doing this contract-breach focus, you will alter your magnetic field and ultimately alter their existence in your life. I have done this with great success, and if you do this correctly you will experience less weight on your shoulders. Make sure to make this a habit with the new people in your life so you will move forward agreeing to pleasant contracts. Otherwise, you will end up attracting the same person with a different name.

As a side note, if your view of others is bad, then you are pushing away a lot of potentially fulfilling relationships. This is because the people who you see the bad in sees the good in themselves and you. These people refuse to see it any other way, and for that, you will repel them. In other words, these rules go both ways. For the sake of your well-being, choose the side of unity. The ride in life will be a lot smoother. If you don't have a favorable view towards others and believe that the people you're going to be around will annoy you, then you are going to attract others with that same belief.

On a final note, you would be surprised how you physically change in the eyes of others when your attitude changes. Your opinions and beliefs about yourself and others are felt and sensed by others. Let's say you're wearing a white shirt and you spill a drop of mustard on it, during lunch. The more you think about it, the more everyone else is going to notice it. It's a very similar concept. What you focus on, concerning yourself, is what others see in you. If the other person has the mustard stain and you stay focused on it, then that person won't feel comfortable around you and will avoid you. Your attention plays a considerable role in your relationships with others as well as the maintaining of your contracts.

~Nicholas D’Arezzo~

All your thoughts generate thought-forms that materialize, only in your life, into situations that will generate similar thoughts in you.

The more time and emotion behind your thoughts, the stronger the thought-forms they generate, the more effect they'll have on you, and only you.

Fear and anger are the worst.

Fascinating subject. :smile:

I've sincerely loved another so much I had that person always put on a pedestal (others used to comment how I would basically worship this guy, I just would refuse to see him in bad light.. always made up excuses for his behaviour so would most of the time only see his good things no matter what this guy did to me). That person I know did have love for me too and due to that I was allowing myself to be abused. It isn't always the case of someone not caring or not loving another which causes disharmonious or problem relationships. Sometimes it's just simply a case that you and the other do not have the same vibe.

Sometimes it's better to just accept that you and the other are at different places spiritually at this point of time If one does that it shouldn't be hard to break away from most. Common sense is a great thing to use when it comes to relationships. It doesn't have to be a complex situation in most cases. If you need to leave a relationship, work on yourself and try to find the inner strength to do so, imagine and see yourself being innerly strong and able to do what you know is right. You cant expect situations to change if you feel weak and vulnerable and without this change you are likely to attract similar relationships into your life.

Ask yourself .. "what about me is causing this situation?" "why are I attracting this?" "are I holding onto this instead of letting it go?". Thinking you can change others when they have their own free will rather than looking deeply at oneself can lead to being stuck in unwanted relationships. You need to be prepared to leave those relationships you do not want.


I suggest to always be kind to others. Just cause you and another are on a different wave length it is no reason not to be kind. Try to treat all as brothers and sisters....

This all sounds rather complicated. It should be possible by degrees from "I don't want you in my life any more" to putting off meeting until someone takes the hint, shortening the txts or msgs or "I've got to go," on the phone, to rid someone from your firmament. Just be resolute.
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This applies mostly in situations where we don't have much of a choice, like in the workplace. Otherwise, cutting all communications is the best route to take.

This seems to be more of a case of learning to love yourself more. Loving yourself more than you love him would have probably closed the contract you had with him. Once you start loving yourself more, his purpose for being in your life will be fulfilled and the two of you will move on in different directions.

However, easier said than done. It's very tough to do when you love someone.

Often I think this still too. And it's funny, because I know love is easier to do then hate. Hate is actually difficult and stressful and uncomfortable. So it's really funny, that we strange humans have made a habbit out of being unnatural. And yet in all of that, our nature has still always been true and perfect and we are love evermore!

And so it is only a matter of time before anyone finds out about their own unconditionally loving nature. And the effortlessness of that. End then life simply becomes so much more enjoyable. And we all want that, because that is our own true nature. So to choose unconditional love is so easy for me. It's like "yeah ofcourse I'm gonna love you! Because I wanna feel good! I care about myself! So I love you no matter WHAT! I love you so much, that I don't care what you think." :D

Now imagine the freedom you give to someone when you tell them this. Imagine how free they will feel. "You are not the boss of me! I am the boss of me!" oh thank god. You know what a big relief that is to anyone to whom you say that?... And mean it!? The weight of the world is lifted off their shoulders! And the authenticity of your presence becomes so much more!

"I create my own reality." I am free forever, and you are too.

May it all be well with you. Unconditional love to you, and all.

The first time I read this title I was like, wait... There is no law of exclusion. Remove people? It sound weird at first. But you do give helpful advice.

And then I look in my own life, and often I think about how other people have influence in my life. Sometimes it is a bit disruptive. And then I think, oh I want them removed! And right then I remembered this topic. I was like, hey, hold on, wait a minute! Every relationship is eternal. There is no law of exclusion. And all of the sudden....

I realise, I cannot possibly be who I am, if others are not being who "other than me" is! You need self and other to even have any experience and awareness of self at all! And SO MUCH of my benefit in my life comes from others! I could not even define in numbers accurately how much... It is infinite and ever expanding. And it goes a long looong way! Like even this forum, matt warne? I have no idea who that is. But he made this forums possible and now here I am and I'm loving all the like minded people. So I feel really appreciative for someone who I have never even met before!

The problem only is when life causes us to become more, and then we argue with that life about the moreness it has allowed us to become and how it should allow us to become it, instead of allowing ourself to simply be it.

Like my brother really made me more, wonderful journey. Lots of expansion. But then you become more and then argue about stuff that is completely irrelevant. And then be like, yeah you need to change to make me happy. And like... You limit me! And then I think for myself a while. And I realise that my body limits me too. It's not a bad thing. To be limited by gravity. Infact, this limitation is what offers me all of these precise freedoms that I seek to be and become the ever moreness of it. And so all of my desires are right here and now. And really, my assumption that someone limits me, as I feel bad, it means that that other person actually holds the key to our own unconditional freedom. That they actually are literally promoting your freedom whilest you are trying to make them "not limit you".

And then I remember, oh yeah ofcourse... I remember now. I just was too stuck in my own self condemnation to even remember the goodness that this person is offering me 24/7 365, and how it is relevant to absolutely every fiber of my bone to know this goodness. And then it becomes obvious why they are in my life. DUHHH! THIS IS MY KEY TO MY UNCONDITIONAL FREEDOM AND EMPOWERMENT EVERMORE! And it happens to be so wisely held by a person who is so capable of annoying the hell out of me. Ahah! Talk about getting ready to get ready!

EDIT: ok so I used the key and found out that people do not die. They just become a slightly different version of themselves in a parallel universe, where they did not die. Tho from our point of view, they died, because we are not compatible with their nature. Not that they are very different. But eventually, when one realises the similarity then the meeting can occur, for this realisation also. I had the same experience, but it is confusing at first, because you actually feel more lonely then less... To think that they exist in a different life and they have no idea who they have been or any memory of you, while at the same time, investigating further, the memory is there, when you imply that it is, and it's strange as hell. Like you can have an interdimensional relationship. With different people, who are actually the exact same person, but from slightly different points of view. I'm tired atm, so I'll investigate further on another time. Anyway, no need to grief lost loved ones. Thats good. Kinda I guess. Well, not anymore. It has actually become literally, physically. Which is even more weird. Because now I REMEMBER that I don't remember who I used to be. So really weird. Kind of reminds me of digital consciousness. Compute a different memory. Beep boop.