CalendarGirl
25-01-2011, 04:55 AM
I guess I am looking for a little insight into this. I never really technically was what one would call a spiritual person — though I didn't dismiss the possibility of a spiritual world either. As I've gotten older, and particularly in the past year or so, I find myself being more and more open to such ideas. While this isn't perhaps the strangest coincidence story ever, it is just resonating inside me in a different way than I am used to... it just feels different.
Here's my story (names are pseudonyms), sorry it is so long!:
For a while, I had a few separate groups of friends. The ones in this story are: Gia, Ella & I; Hannah, Abby, & I; and Carissa, Hailey & I. These were the people I considered my closest friends, with the exception of Hailey because we never really got the chance to get close.
All within 2010, I stopped being friends with Gia, Abby, and Carissa. None of these endings came about from any sort of fight, they just happened. Gia I have not seen since the 2009-10 New Years Eve, and only heard from sporadically. Abby and Hannah had a fight, which neither asked me to be in the middle of (thankfully) but really I was closer to Hannah, and Abby was in fact being quiet cruel, so I haven't seen her since October. And then Carissa, she came over one night last September. We had a good, fun night, she went home and that was the last time I saw her, because for the next week after that I could tell that she was being weird towards me, then one day she deletes me off her facebook and did not speak to me. I truly haven't the slightest clue why.
I pretty quickly determined, in each case, that it was for the best. Ella and Hannah had always been my closest friends, but I ended up even closer to them. And I reconnected with Hailey, who I had almost completely lost touch with. All as a direct result of not being friends with the others.
Here is the part that is driving me nuts: At the very beginning of this month, around the 3rd, Gia texts me about something random, and when I didn't reply promptly, asks if there's been a rift between us, and wanted to talk and such. A couple weeks later, Abby pops up out of nowhere wanting to talk to Hannah and almost came to dinner with us, but bailed at the last minute. At that point, I made a joke to Hannah about former friends showing up and said "Well, maybe we'll being hearing from Carissa soon!" Then yesterday, I said to my sister that I missed Carissa once and a while. That was the first time I had ever said that outloud or to anyone. A couple hours later, I get an email from Carissa asking if we are ever going to speak again!
It just seems so strange to me — In one year, I lose 3 of my friends. I come to terms with each loss, even find benefits in them, then all 3 reemerge within the first month of the new year!? What I need some insight to is, if anyone thinks this is a sign of anything, what is it a sign of? Am I supposed to give these people another chance? Am I going to need them for something? Or is it a test of my will to not be tempted to turn back?
I appreciate any and all insight on this, from wherever it comes!
Here's my story (names are pseudonyms), sorry it is so long!:
For a while, I had a few separate groups of friends. The ones in this story are: Gia, Ella & I; Hannah, Abby, & I; and Carissa, Hailey & I. These were the people I considered my closest friends, with the exception of Hailey because we never really got the chance to get close.
All within 2010, I stopped being friends with Gia, Abby, and Carissa. None of these endings came about from any sort of fight, they just happened. Gia I have not seen since the 2009-10 New Years Eve, and only heard from sporadically. Abby and Hannah had a fight, which neither asked me to be in the middle of (thankfully) but really I was closer to Hannah, and Abby was in fact being quiet cruel, so I haven't seen her since October. And then Carissa, she came over one night last September. We had a good, fun night, she went home and that was the last time I saw her, because for the next week after that I could tell that she was being weird towards me, then one day she deletes me off her facebook and did not speak to me. I truly haven't the slightest clue why.
I pretty quickly determined, in each case, that it was for the best. Ella and Hannah had always been my closest friends, but I ended up even closer to them. And I reconnected with Hailey, who I had almost completely lost touch with. All as a direct result of not being friends with the others.
Here is the part that is driving me nuts: At the very beginning of this month, around the 3rd, Gia texts me about something random, and when I didn't reply promptly, asks if there's been a rift between us, and wanted to talk and such. A couple weeks later, Abby pops up out of nowhere wanting to talk to Hannah and almost came to dinner with us, but bailed at the last minute. At that point, I made a joke to Hannah about former friends showing up and said "Well, maybe we'll being hearing from Carissa soon!" Then yesterday, I said to my sister that I missed Carissa once and a while. That was the first time I had ever said that outloud or to anyone. A couple hours later, I get an email from Carissa asking if we are ever going to speak again!
It just seems so strange to me — In one year, I lose 3 of my friends. I come to terms with each loss, even find benefits in them, then all 3 reemerge within the first month of the new year!? What I need some insight to is, if anyone thinks this is a sign of anything, what is it a sign of? Am I supposed to give these people another chance? Am I going to need them for something? Or is it a test of my will to not be tempted to turn back?
I appreciate any and all insight on this, from wherever it comes!