Candles....

[starling]

Hi,

I don't know if this is in the right place.

Having some personal difficulties just now with a broken friendship.

I'm using candles to cheer my self up...... why do they make me feel better??

I was trying to use the light energy to heal the friendship but if anything I appear to be dong more harm than good!!!

Has any one had success with healing thoughts etc using candles?





David

[Mused]

I don't, but I used Yankee candles whenever I feel very stressed and it improves things ... Don't know if it helps otherwise tho lol :/

[Star Wolf Medicine Woman]

I guess its the 'Feel good' Aromatherapy factor...
I doa lt of Reiki but rarely light a candle for it.

[Crystal Ambassador]

I have a few theories, and I agree with Star Wolf's post regarding aromatherapy.

The biggest one is that fire is a consuming and purifying element. It draws in negativity, transmuting it. The idea of "purging flames" and that wildfires clear out dead brush to provide nutrient-rich soil are observations of its ability.

The second theory - which likely ties into the first - is that historically, humans have been comforted by fire. Campfires and hearths, at least. Fire is light and heat, chasing away darkness and the cold. It brings people together, helps them survive, purifies food. Logically any manifestation of fire - including a candle - would trigger the same response.

Something I noticed is that you mentioned lighting a candle with the intention of having it induce positivity, rather than having it carry away negativity. I would recommend shifting it so that the fire's energy is more compatible. How this would help is that, right now there is negative energy - pain, fear, probably some anger - that is occupying space. That space can't hold positivity if it's holding other energy. I would suggest first looking into those feelings. First, imagine an egg shape of energy around you, or ask a Guide to place one around you. Vocalize the intention that you want this energy shield to provide positive, loving energy. Then light a candle, it doesn't matter what kind as long as it feels comfortable. Write the thoughts down, with the plan of simply expressing them on paper. Don't hold back; write how you feel, what you're afraid of (For example, "I'm mad at _____ for doing what she/he did, and I'm afraid that if this friendship is gone, I'll be alone"), all the feelings associated with it. Let them be expressed and brought out. Try not to push them; give them space to express instead of building up. The candle on its own will draw the feelings to it, creating a sort of energy vacuum. Envision positive energy flowing into the empty space, preferably from a Higher Power, a Guide, your Heart Chakra, or the energy shield.

The reason I suggest to do this - to focus on addressing your own energy - is that it is much easier to affect your own than others'. It also benefits other areas of the person's life when they work on one hurting aspect lovingly.

I wish you luck with your process, it's never easy to lose a relationship of any kind with another person.

[Uma]

Candle, aromatherapy (diffuser), soothing music...

[cahill]

Candle, aromatherapy (diffuser), soothing music...

I'm a firm believer in this. I love using jasmine.