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Horse
11-11-2015, 12:53 PM
I had a few experiences which gave me a glimpse of something. Love. After that, theres nothing else to strive for. The source of the love is beyond this illusion of separation. I'm aware that what anchors me to this illusion of separation is attachment to it. There are certain things I'm still attached to in a way. Should I just let it all go? I pray that I become selfless, to move into that state of selfless joy, to be flowing with love for all sentient beings, to be cleared of this egoic fog, to transcend this world of the ego. I just don't know exactly what I need to do now. I started a daily 1.5hr meditation practice 2 months ago but I don't feel like it has brought me in any way closer. I need help.
I had a few experiences which gave me a glimpse of something. Love. After that, theres nothing else to strive for. The source of the love is beyond this illusion of separation. I'm aware that what anchors me to this illusion of separation is attachment to it. There are certain things I'm still attached to in a way. Should I just let it all go? I pray that I become selfless, to move into that state of selfless joy, to be flowing with love for all sentient beings, to be cleared of this egoic fog, to transcend this world of the ego. I just don't know exactly what I need to do now. I started a daily 1.5hr meditation practice 2 months ago but I don't feel like it has brought me in any way closer. I need help.
I think you should try " the middle way " it could help you regarding attachment.
Jyotir
11-11-2015, 02:53 PM
I had a few experiences which gave me a glimpse of something. Love. After that, theres nothing else to strive for. The source of the love is beyond this illusion of separation. I'm aware that what anchors me to this illusion of separation is attachment to it. There are certain things I'm still attached to in a way. Should I just let it all go? I pray that I become selfless, to move into that state of selfless joy, to be flowing with love for all sentient beings, to be cleared of this egoic fog, to transcend this world of the ego. I just don't know exactly what I need to do now. I started a daily 1.5hr meditation practice 2 months ago but I don't feel like it has brought me in any way closer. I need help.
Hi Barnacle,
If the topic is: "relinquishing all attachment", then (see my emphasis bolded in your quote above) you might consider that such relinquishing of attachment might include impatience and expectation. Those are also common attachments.
iow...
Try the same meditation regime while maintaining a relaxed sincere intensity daily for the next 20 years and see what happens.
This is to suggest that theory and practice may have slightly different 'results'.
~ J
Lucyan28
11-11-2015, 05:23 PM
Hi Bernacle this world is so much more than just attachments, there is beauty, peace, Love, faith, joy, bliss, etc etc etc
Try to be in a balance place mentally/emotional.
Learn to Love everything in the creation but knowing that nothing really belong to us, and also we are part of everything, there is no separation and hence there is no necessity to be attached to things, because we are already all those things, we are one and we are nothing at the same time.
Empty your cup ;)
I believe those thoughts might help you to relinquish the attachments.
Blessings to you !
Rokon
11-11-2015, 06:00 PM
I'd like to offer a different perspective.
The source of the love is beyond this illusion of separation. I'm aware that what anchors me to this illusion of separation is attachment to it.
Not sure what “attachment” has to do with it. Just “be” yourself and experience life. This is why a part of your soul/spirit wanted to manifest you in the first place.
I pray that I become selfless, to move into that state of selfless joy, to be flowing with love for all sentient beings
I really don't know how it's possible to experience real love without self-love first, imho.
I started a daily 1.5hr meditation practice 2 months ago but I don't feel like it has brought me in any way closer. I need help.
Oh geez I can relate. I meditated for years for much of the same reasoning.
Bless.
Horse
11-11-2015, 06:56 PM
I really don't know how it's possible to experience real love without self-love first, imho.
Well, somethings been happening me where occasionally I tune into this sense of profound love, so intense it has me crying tears of joy and when this happens, its like theres a force there making me love myself in that moment. That feeling of love, its everything I could ever strive for in this life. Feeling that immense joy when working towards helping others, it is the most profound blessing I have ever experienced. And it makes this cut off state which I inhabit most of the time even more hellish. Maybe its because I don't love myself that I'm cut off from the ability to feel love most of the time. Loving yourself, is there a way to learn to do that? I have repressed fears and emotions, some serious repressed stuff inside me which blocks me from feeling emotions.
Rokon
11-11-2015, 07:27 PM
Maybe its because I don't love myself that I'm cut off from the ability to feel love most of the time. Loving yourself, is there a way to learn to do that? I have repressed fears and emotions, some serious repressed stuff inside me which blocks me from feeling emotions.
Well, its not easy to solve. And my understandings are certainly antithetical to the popular understandings here so I have to be careful with suggesting approaches. I will say that your repressed emotions MUST be discovered, taken out of hiding and given loving light."
Take care..
Fleur de Frost
11-11-2015, 07:33 PM
All you need to let go of is the attachment to control. That's it. Praying so intently and meditating for so long might provide wonderful results, but these are actions being completed under the necessity to 'transcend the ego'. Why?
Being filled with love means loving every part of yourself - including those parts you feel contempt for. Can you truly feel nothing but love for every sentient being if you don't love everything about yourself first?
We're born with the ego. It's meant to be with us. Of course, there's a difference between having an ego and being egotistical - we're all experiencing this human condition. Experiencing something Earthly means accepting with everything Earthly.
Embrace the process. The more you try to avoid it or 'transcend' something your soul chose to come here for, the harder it will be to reconnect with the natural state we arrived here in - pure love.
The secret ingredient isn't meditation, or crystals, or visualizing an 'attachment' release for five hours. The only secret ingredient is you. All you have to do is love. Love, and know that holding onto attachments will help you realize they never existed. Live and love, and you will be able to let go.
Fleur de Frost
11-11-2015, 07:36 PM
Well, somethings been happening me where occasionally I tune into this sense of profound love, so intense it has me crying tears of joy and when this happens, its like theres a force there making me love myself in that moment. That feeling of love, its everything I could ever strive for in this life. Feeling that immense joy when working towards helping others, it is the most profound blessing I have ever experienced. And it makes this cut off state which I inhabit most of the time even more hellish. Maybe its because I don't love myself that I'm cut off from the ability to feel love most of the time. Loving yourself, is there a way to learn to do that? I have repressed fears and emotions, some serious repressed stuff inside me which blocks me from feeling emotions.
Sorry for the double post! Gotta reply to this one, too :)
Love those parts of yourself for the lessons they teach you. Everyone has a tremendous amount of repressed energy trapped inside their bones; all you have to do to let it out is keep digging, deeper and deeper, until you realize why they're there. Why are you afraid of this? Why does that sadden you? Asking these questions about energy we keep holding onto, until you reach one answer that makes you cry with resonance, is what's ultimately going to heal the wound.
The pain just stays there to help you remember the lesson. Once you've fully integrated what it taught you, it has nothing left to do be dissipate.
Good luck <3
Horse
11-11-2015, 08:01 PM
Love those parts of yourself for the lessons they teach you. Everyone has a tremendous amount of repressed energy trapped inside their bones; all you have to do to let it out is keep digging, deeper and deeper, until you realize why they're there. Why are you afraid of this? Why does that sadden you? Asking these questions about energy we keep holding onto, until you reach one answer that makes you cry with resonance, is what's ultimately going to heal the wound.
The pain just stays there to help you remember the lesson. Once you've fully integrated what it taught you, it has nothing left to do be dissipate.
Good luck <3
Heres a good example. I had this dream in which someone told me that they were sad for me because hell awaits so imminently, in the dream I felt a sense of dread come up and wanted to escape that fate. The dream was more vivid than usual. I woke up feeling very disturbed, feeling like this was some kinda omen. I meditated, it was a really difficult meditation, my body and mind were agitated. After about an hour I burst into tears. Tears of relief, I felt like I was forgiving myself about something although I didn't know what exactly. There was some kind of force making me look at something profoundly good in me, these profoundly good traits that make it impossible to view myself with anything other than love.
So I'm afraid of hell and this fear has been repressed. What I was forgiving myself about is a repressed sexual thing, an abnormality in me that I was ashamed of in the past but am not anymore. I didn't think I believed in hell, but obviously a part of me did because I believed that I was condemned from that moment on. There are some other big abnormalities that I was ashamed of. I learned to generate love inside myself by visualising myself as a little girl giving love to others, and receiving love in return. I would feel all that love. I dreaded the idea of ever telling that to anyone, but things have changed, I'm not ashamed of anything anymore. I lost my ability to do that not that long ago, about a year or two ago. I've realised that love is everything. Its the life force that sustains us.
The things I had been afraid of hell and demonic possession, they've been a reality all along, I just didn't realise. Hell is just the absence of love. Demonic possession is being ensnared by the egoic mind. My intention is to flow with pure unconditional love for all sentient beings. I keep hearing, that the first step to loving others is loving oneself. I wish I knew how to do that. How to dissolve whatever is blocking me from doing so. So you think I can bring the repressed stuff to the surface by asking questions to myself like that?
naturesflow
11-11-2015, 08:26 PM
I had a few experiences which gave me a glimpse of something. Love. After that, theres nothing else to strive for. The source of the love is beyond this illusion of separation. I'm aware that what anchors me to this illusion of separation is attachment to it. There are certain things I'm still attached to in a way. Should I just let it all go? I pray that I become selfless, to move into that state of selfless joy, to be flowing with love for all sentient beings, to be cleared of this egoic fog, to transcend this world of the ego. I just don't know exactly what I need to do now. I started a daily 1.5hr meditation practice 2 months ago but I don't feel like it has brought me in any way closer. I need help.
Life is a journey not the end result..
Horse
12-11-2015, 09:11 AM
Life is a journey not the end result..
So I should just trust that it will all happen when it happens? That the flow will inevitably open up?
Well, its not easy to solve. And my understandings are certainly antithetical to the popular understandings here so I have to be careful with suggesting approaches. I will say that your repressed emotions MUST be discovered, taken out of hiding and given loving light."
Take care..
It seems to be fears that get in the way of looking at whats repressed. Do you know of any ways to discover whats repressed in there? How to bring repressed fears and emotions to the surface?
Rokon
12-11-2015, 03:06 PM
How to bring repressed fears and emotions to the surface?Giving specific advice to strangers on a public forum is a tricky business. But you can try hypnotic therapy to bring out repressed rears and emotions. It does not work for everyone but it can work wonders for the more "suggestible" group.
Lucyan28
12-11-2015, 04:39 PM
So I should just trust that it will all happen when it happens? That the flow will inevitably open up?
Yes and No :wink:
We have to wait for the flow to guide us, everything is just as it should be and everything will be just as it should be :D
The flow give us the Will to change things, however those changes are part of the flow, so the flow has a hidden will inside of it, and we are part of that will/flow, kinda paradox for the mind.
It seems to be fears that get in the way of looking at whats repressed. Do you know of any ways to discover whats repressed in there? How to bring repressed fears and emotions to the surface?
If you are afraid of heights, then jump from an airplane with a parachute :cool: it really works
Miss Hepburn
12-11-2015, 04:53 PM
I had a few experiences which gave me a glimpse of something. Love. After that, theres nothing else to strive for. The source of the love is beyond this illusion of separation. I'm aware that what anchors me to this illusion of separation is attachment to it. There are certain things I'm still attached to in a way. Should I just let it all go? I pray that I become selfless, to move into that state of selfless joy, to be flowing with love for all sentient beings, to be cleared of this egoic fog, to transcend this world of the ego. I just don't know exactly what I need to do now. I started a daily 1.5hr meditation practice 2 months ago but I don't feel like it has brought me in any way closer. I need help. Oh my gosh, what an inspiring aspiration. :smile:
Just reading it got me more centered. Thank you.
There are so many Paths...all have been so wonderful.
The 'path' I'm following now is A Course in Miracles...
teaches how to 'undo' the ego mind system. Yay!
But, if you ever got interested, it is an enormous help to first read
"The Disappearance of the Universe"...even old students are helped
reading it.
By Gary Renard.
I have successfully meditated* for over 40 years and I still recommend this book and
The Course, known also as ACIM.
*(People like to question, what would you consider successful meditation...
simply when you stop the session and, at minimum, you feel peace.)
Rah nam
12-11-2015, 09:04 PM
I had a few experiences which gave me a glimpse of something. Love. After that, theres nothing else to strive for. The source of the love is beyond this illusion of separation. I'm aware that what anchors me to this illusion of separation is attachment to it. There are certain things I'm still attached to in a way. Should I just let it all go? I pray that I become selfless, to move into that state of selfless joy, to be flowing with love for all sentient beings, to be cleared of this egoic fog, to transcend this world of the ego. I just don't know exactly what I need to do now. I started a daily 1.5hr meditation practice 2 months ago but I don't feel like it has brought me in any way closer. I need help.
No one can tell you, you have to let go of everything. You will let go when you are ready.
naturesflow
12-11-2015, 10:47 PM
[QUOTE=Barnacle]So I should just trust that it will all happen when it happens? That the flow will inevitably open up?
Trust is a good thing. Flowing with what is works best for me. So all you can do is look at what is, take your steps in process of what is as you can and want to do..
It seems to be fears that get in the way of looking at whats repressed. Do you know of any ways to discover whats repressed in there? How to bring repressed fears and emotions to the surface?
Self reflection is a good tool. Checking in on your feelings and reactions to life experiences and people can be a wonderful mirror to delve deeper, and let go of what your holding onto.
Let your feelings by your guide. So look at those fears and let them speak to you openly. If you have the fear of fear to open the box inside you, you might need some support to do it safely..to help you open deeper.
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