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Lucyan28
20-10-2015, 03:12 PM
I wish there was an easy way to heal the grief, in this case it is the grief for a great love that could have been, it is the grief for loosing a dear person.
Music has certainly aid with the broken heart.
Dancing and singing have been my allies on this trial.
Coffee has been the sweetest comfort.
Beers have been a reason for celebration during sad moments.
Books have been my escape from this reality.
Exercising has helped me to remain strong.
Crying has been a great relief.
Advices and kind words from folks of this forum have been a light in the darkness.
My friends and family have been the anchor to this life.
My inner self has been the reason to keep breathing.
But above all...
Love has been the greatest thing that has healed me through all this process :love2:
Faith33
21-10-2015, 09:37 AM
Support is a wonderful thing in times like these...you are very fortunate to have your family stand by you.
I have found that time heals most if not all wounds...time is my personal doctor.
starling
21-10-2015, 09:45 AM
I wish there was an easy way to heal the grief, in this case it is the grief for a great love that could have been, it is the grief for loosing a dear person.
Music has certainly aid with the broken heart.
Dancing and singing have been my allies on this trial.
Coffee has been the sweetest comfort.
Beers have been a reason for celebration during sad moments.
Books have been my escape from this reality.
Exercising has helped me to remain strong.
Crying has been a great relief.
Advices and kind words from folks of this forum have been a light in the darkness.
My friends and family have been the anchor to this life.
My inner self has been the reason to keep breathing.
But above all...
Love has been the greatest thing that has healed me through all this process :love2:
I wish there was an easy way to heal the grief
Sounds like a bad case of "life" there mate.
You seem to be doing all the right things. Have you tried talking?
I do hope you feel better soon. I know life can seem very unkind at times.
essvass
21-10-2015, 09:54 AM
I wish there was an easy way to heal the grief, in this case it is the grief for a great love that could have been, it is the grief for loosing a dear person.
Music has certainly aid with the broken heart.
Dancing and singing have been my allies on this trial.
Coffee has been the sweetest comfort.
Beers have been a reason for celebration during sad moments.
Books have been my escape from this reality.
Exercising has helped me to remain strong.
Crying has been a great relief.
Advices and kind words from folks of this forum have been a light in the darkness.
My friends and family have been the anchor to this life.
My inner self has been the reason to keep breathing.
But above all...
Love has been the greatest thing that has healed me through all this process :love2:
I love the way you express yourself, Lucyan28. May your pain transform into even more light.
Belle
21-10-2015, 10:06 AM
I'm so sorry. Be kind to yourself. Rest. Drink water. Eat wisely. Really indulge in the feelings.
naturesflow
21-10-2015, 10:50 AM
I wish there was an easy way to heal the grief, in this case it is the grief for a great love that could have been, it is the grief for loosing a dear person.
Music has certainly aid with the broken heart.
Dancing and singing have been my allies on this trial.
Coffee has been the sweetest comfort.
Beers have been a reason for celebration during sad moments.
Books have been my escape from this reality.
Exercising has helped me to remain strong.
Crying has been a great relief.
Advices and kind words from folks of this forum have been a light in the darkness.
My friends and family have been the anchor to this life.
My inner self has been the reason to keep breathing.
But above all...
Love has been the greatest thing that has healed me through all this process :love2:
Sounds like you know how to live your life even so..Some people fall hard and never climb up and out.
What you show is how to live but also honour feelings.
Lucyan28
21-10-2015, 02:56 PM
Support is a wonderful thing in times like these...you are very fortunate to have your family stand by you.
I have found that time heals most if not all wounds...time is my personal doctor.
Hi Hope :smile:
Certainly the time is the best healer,
I would like to sleep for some months and get healed by this doctor
Lucyan28
21-10-2015, 02:59 PM
I wish there was an easy way to heal the grief
Sounds like a bad case of "life" there mate.
You seem to be doing all the right things. Have you tried talking?
I do hope you feel better soon. I know life can seem very unkind at times.
I talked with my cousin about this, it helped I know :redface:
Lucyan28
21-10-2015, 02:59 PM
I love the way you express yourself, Lucyan28. May your pain transform into even more light.
Thanks essvass, may the light be with us :hug2:
Lucyan28
21-10-2015, 03:14 PM
I'm so sorry. Be kind to yourself. Rest. Drink water. Eat wisely. Really indulge in the feelings.
ok no cakes for me :icon_frown:
I'm trying to eat healthy because I'm doing exercise 6 days a week, it's been really helpful
Lucyan28
21-10-2015, 03:16 PM
Sounds like you know how to live your life even so..Some people fall hard and never climb up and out.
What you show is how to live but also honour feelings.
Hi Natures :hug2:
Somehow in some moments I feel I'm still down, but the good thing is that in another moments I'm starting to feel I'm going up again, I think it's gonna be a matter of time, perhaps months, but well here I am, thankful for another day of life
essvass
21-10-2015, 03:31 PM
Hi Hope :smile:
Certainly the time is the best healer,
I would like to sleep for some months and get healed by this doctor
Thank you, Lucyan28,
The Light IS with us. You generate it.
I don't think you are in a mood for jokes. I learned this when jokes were the last thing on my mind too. Yet, I still smile when I think of this.
Time is a great healer, but a lousy beautician.
Please heal and keep your good looks and faith.
Lucyan28
21-10-2015, 06:06 PM
Thank you, Lucyan28,
The Light IS with us. You generate it.
I don't think you are in a mood for jokes. I learned this when jokes were the last thing on my mind too. Yet, I still smile when I think of this.
Time is a great healer, but a lousy beautician.
Please heal and keep your good looks and faith.
When the wound was fresh everything hurt, only sleeping was able to help me.
Currently the jokes help, nothing like a good laugh.
I guess the worst part has passed, I really hope so.
Mr Interesting
21-10-2015, 07:28 PM
My last grief thing was quite lovely through the centre but it's covering went a bit yucky.
A friends cat was dying and this particular cat had been the most dis-interested cat in me in all my life and I'd never ever got even near it but she said it was dying, all worried like, then it wandered straight (staright) into the room and right up and sat in front of me so I leaned over knowing full well gentleness was needed, gave it a few chin rubs, and then 'bang' this huge greif welled up through me and I started crying to which girly girl freaked a little and 'what was that, what did he say'. All I really knew was the grief was clean... pure un-adulterated yearning to just hurry up and die as in just let me be what's supposed to be.
It was lovely but there was something on the edge too and that's what seemed to be wanting translated so I said there something on the edge and it'll come to me eventually and it did when I was driving home... Valerian, so I sent her an email later.
Anyways I went back about two weeks later and cat was gone, he'd died, but I was know in league with the devil. Oh well, but's that's some Christians for you "get thee away from me my own feelings of my fears' she's, this girly girl, a bit intuitive but went she'd felt me and the puss doin' what we do she'd connected with her own depths and couldn't relate it to the word so I became Mr naughty.
How do I deal with grief? With a poker face for the players and palmed cards for the naysayers.
essvass
21-10-2015, 10:48 PM
I hope so too, Lucyan28.
Deepsoul
21-10-2015, 11:04 PM
Dear Luycan28
I write poems when I am grieving to help acknowledge the sadness, and the beauty and to see hope, Poetry comes straight from the heart it dosent need to be perfect just let it flow out.
In reflection your original post was quite poetic.....:hug2:
I wish there was an easy way to heal the grief, in this case it is the grief for a great love that could have been, it is the grief for loosing a dear person.
Music has certainly aid with the broken heart.
Dancing and singing have been my allies on this trial.
Coffee has been the sweetest comfort.
Beers have been a reason for celebration during sad moments.
Books have been my escape from this reality.
Exercising has helped me to remain strong.
Crying has been a great relief.
Advices and kind words from folks of this forum have been a light in the darkness.
My friends and family have been the anchor to this life.
My inner self has been the reason to keep breathing.
But above all...
Love has been the greatest thing that has healed me through all this process :love2:
Lucyan....I would just like to give you a virtual (((hug))) :hug3:
What a lovely character you are. Blessings to you.
Light Seeker
21-10-2015, 11:57 PM
It is a double tragedy in my own experience because grief and sorrow is of a lower vibration to that of The Love and Light that the dear passed one occupies... Grief acting as a barrier to contact because of the distance between Sadness and Sorrow and the realm of Joy beyond suffering. 40 years it took me . My Mother died when I was a 9 year old boy.
I sat circle , both open and closed, mucked about with Planchette, scryed and cried... Nothing ,... Meditation ...Zilch....
The Sorrow, The desperation....Quiet pathetic really now I look back on it.
The conversation went broadly speaking (omitting the derogatory term my Mother used ) went like this...
Me; At last, Finally Where where you all these years ?
My Mothers Spirit; I have been here all along you idiot (except she did not use the word idiot )
Anyway , I digress...The Pain and Sorrow seems to be what creates the barrier, where as Love and Light seems to bridge the gap...
I can only speak from my own experience though
TheGlow
22-10-2015, 12:15 AM
I think many here have experienced this.
One thing that helps me continually is to remember how much I love them and that I would not want to knock them off their path because the path they choose will ultimately lead them to where and who they need to be. You wouldn't want them to miss out on that just to be with you right?
Maybe in another life things will be different
Faith33
22-10-2015, 05:28 AM
Lucyan, since I'm also dealing with a form of grief,
something I do, which may not work for all is that I expose myself to the pain and suffering, breathe in every second until I eventually become immune to it.
This has worked for me in my darkest hours and am applying it again at this time. It hurts... a lot, though eventually the hurt will cease... with time.
Hoping you are feeling a tiny bit better today...(((hugs)))
starling
22-10-2015, 01:08 PM
I talked with my cousin about this, it helped I know :redface:
Good!:thumbsup:
knightofalbion
22-10-2015, 01:30 PM
But ... great love never dies!
Remember them with a happy smile and a happy heart. Wish them the greatest joy.
And look forward to meeting them again some day.
In the meantime, live!, love! and shine your light! - because that's why you're here - and be happy doing it.
Faith33
22-10-2015, 01:49 PM
But ... great love never dies!
Remember them with a happy smile and a happy heart. Wish them the greatest joy.
And look forward to meeting them again some day.
In the meantime, live!, love! and shine your light! - because that's why you're here - and be happy doing it.
Beautiful words, knight, which apply to all, grieving or not.
We sometimes tend to lose sight of this... thank you for the reminder.
Lucyan28
22-10-2015, 02:09 PM
Dear Luycan28
I write poems when I am grieving to help acknowledge the sadness, and the beauty and to see hope, Poetry comes straight from the heart it dosent need to be perfect just let it flow out.
In reflection your original post was quite poetic.....:hug2:
Hello Deepsoul thanks :smile:
I'll try to write poetry, I never thought about it. Sometimes I write text message that I'll never send, those silly messages help to relieve the emotions
Lucyan28
22-10-2015, 02:09 PM
Lucyan....I would just like to give you a virtual (((hug))) :hug3:
What a lovely character you are. Blessings to you.
Thanks so much Tobi :hug2: :hug2:
Lucyan28
22-10-2015, 02:17 PM
I think many here have experienced this.
One thing that helps me continually is to remember how much I love them and that I would not want to knock them off their path because the path they choose will ultimately lead them to where and who they need to be. You wouldn't want them to miss out on that just to be with you right?
Maybe in another life things will be different
You are right Glow, I know :redface:
Yesterday I was meditating in the universal connection that we all share, it's the only way to feel him close to me now, and I received two words: "have faith"
So I decided to endure with unconditional Love, and have faith in the future.
Maybe in another life, yeah I hope so, that reminds me of the song "the one that got away" of Kary Perry
Lucyan28
22-10-2015, 02:21 PM
Lucyan, since I'm also dealing with a form of grief,
something I do, which may not work for all is that I expose myself to the pain and suffering, breathe in every second until I eventually become immune to it.
This has worked for me in my darkest hours and am applying it again at this time. It hurts... a lot, though eventually the hurt will cease... with time.
Hoping you are feeling a tiny bit better today...(((hugs)))
Hi Hop3 :hug2:
It really hurts, do you just breathe when those moments come? :confused:
I'm not able to do it yet... I have to play some music even if it is 3am
The void in the stomach and the heart is overwhelming, I try to fill it with Light and Love, it helps a bit, I guess that is the healing process.
Thanks again for your advice, I'll try to breathe
Lucyan28
22-10-2015, 02:23 PM
It is a double tragedy in my own experience because grief and sorrow is of a lower vibration to that of The Love and Light that the dear passed one occupies... Grief acting as a barrier to contact because of the distance between Sadness and Sorrow and the realm of Joy beyond suffering. 40 years it took me . My Mother died when I was a 9 year old boy.
I sat circle , both open and closed, mucked about with Planchette, scryed and cried... Nothing ,... Meditation ...Zilch....
The Sorrow, The desperation....Quiet pathetic really now I look back on it.
The conversation went broadly speaking (omitting the derogatory term my Mother used ) went like this...
Me; At last, Finally Where where you all these years ?
My Mothers Spirit; I have been here all along you idiot (except she did not use the word idiot )
Anyway , I digress...The Pain and Sorrow seems to be what creates the barrier, where as Love and Light seems to bridge the gap...
I can only speak from my own experience though
Hi Light :hug2:
Thanks for sharing your experience, I really appreciate it, we're always close to our dear ones, and this reminded me that we all share a connection as we have the same core and we all are part of the whole. I have to work on this ideas, understand them and feel them
Lucyan28
22-10-2015, 02:29 PM
But ... great love never dies!
Remember them with a happy smile and a happy heart. Wish them the greatest joy.
And look forward to meeting them again some day.
In the meantime, live!, love! and shine your light! - because that's why you're here - and be happy doing it.
Thanks dear Knight :hug:
I'll write your words in my mobile so I can read them in the darkest moments.
Thanks again, blessings to you!
TheGlow
22-10-2015, 06:10 PM
You are right Glow, I know :redface:
Yesterday I was meditating in the universal connection that we all share, it's the only way to feel him close to me now, and I received two words: "have faith"
So I decided to endure with unconditional Love, and have faith in the future.
Maybe in another life, yeah I hope so, that reminds me of the song "the one that got away" of Kary Perry
Crazy I have done the same and gotten the word "trust". :)
Lucyan28
22-10-2015, 06:16 PM
Crazy I have done the same and gotten the word "trust". :)
Message received and acknowledged captain !
"Trust" and "Have Faith" :hug2:
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