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When I say time to yourself, I don't mean listening to music, reading or other solitary activity. I mean not your phone, book, music etc. Just you without anything else.
There are spaces everywhere. For example, I take time to myself on my commute to and from the city each day. I simply close my eyes and sit there solely within my own company, with my own breathing, my own sensations, emotions and thoughts, completely disengaged from things apart from my own body and mind. There are spaces in ones daily life if you care to notice them.
ocean breeze
20-10-2015, 07:50 AM
I do that often. I'll close off all the lights and sit alone in the dark.
Mr Interesting
21-10-2015, 07:13 PM
Thanks for the reminder Gem who isn't gem... but is Gem enough to get this childish inertia, I'd forgotten that and started doing such again yesterday.
I did the deep and meaningful for a few year and almost fell off the edge but then I just decided to let it all slide to see where that might take me 'cause I like the idea of how much an unfocused enactment might play out the true reality of things.
So I happened to pick up a biography yesterday written by Neil Young and that's possibly because I hard a little vid with him in it where he said he likes to be absent from himself then went on to explain the concepts, as it were, of downloaded creativity, of course in his own language of such, and so the book appeared.
I had, then, an appointment with an important guitar maker guy whom I wanted to cut up wood for me and was somewhat early so found a park in a park and started to read Neil and it was initially disconcerting to a mild degree 'cause he did what might be termed stream of consciousness... I mean start from the beginning Neil and do it properly so when I'm with friends I can have facts ready in a logical set, but no, he just starts talking about his model trains 'cause that's where he is, then he talks about cars and amps as he'd then shut down the laptop and went across to another barn but before the amps got going he mentioned that the ducks were somewhat wary and that a few had disappeared due to other wildlife being hungry.
And then this guitar guy was a little dismissive, but not too much, and I wanted kinda backwoods Michigan guy who'd hunted rabbits with a bow and arrow when he was a kid but then again when someone else arrived I bowed out gracefully then asked if I could check out his stuff to which he said yes then I proceeded to touch that which I know he might have gotten a little precious about... I'm naughty.
Gracey
21-10-2015, 07:15 PM
Time to myself is essential. I like to get out into nature and just be, even in the cold of winter.
naturesflow
21-10-2015, 09:30 PM
I am not here today. Taking time for myself.
Thanks for the reminder also!
Deepsoul
21-10-2015, 10:50 PM
Yes Thanks for the reminder a little lost today but now Ill head to the nature park with my dog and just let it all flow through and around me...and come back feelin chilled...actually funny enough the train is a good place I find also maybe the movement is comforting i dont have a fancy phone and the home internet costs enough so i do that on the train also or a chi-gong or sleep :hug3:
Thanks for the reminder Gem who isn't gem... but is Gem enough to get this childish inertia, I'd forgotten that and started doing such again yesterday.
I am Gem as far as a meaning can be contained but I'm not so different to other people and have similar issues with the busy world and it's abstractions and distractions. The basic 'sticky bit' is like a necessary delusion that what is taken for granted is true, whereas in fact, it merely remains unquestioned.
I did the deep and meaningful for a few year and almost fell off the edge but then I just decided to let it all slide to see where that might take me 'cause I like the idea of how much an unfocused enactment might play out the true reality of things.
Ok the deep and meaningful is something I'm into, but it's all philosophical, like a once removed cousin to the actual lived experience, and necessarily an intellectual exercise, but when a thing is said well, it's awesome.
So I happened to pick up a biography yesterday written by Neil Young and that's possibly because I hard a little vid with him in it where he said he likes to be absent from himself then went on to explain the concepts, as it were, of downloaded creativity, of course in his own language of such, and so the book appeared.
Neil Young is an icon. Legendary stuff.
I had, then, an appointment with an important guitar maker guy whom I wanted to cut up wood for me and was somewhat early so found a park in a park and started to read Neil and it was initially disconcerting to a mild degree 'cause he did what might be termed stream of consciousness... I mean start from the beginning Neil and do it properly so when I'm with friends I can have facts ready in a logical set, but no, he just starts talking about his model trains 'cause that's where he is, then he talks about cars and amps as he'd then shut down the laptop and went across to another barn but before the amps got going he mentioned that the ducks were somewhat wary and that a few had disappeared due to other wildlife being hungry.
Ducks are very important. They dissapear and we never know what happened. Sometimes they come back a long time after. When a duck leaves, there's always hope.
And then this guitar guy was a little dismissive, but not too much, and I wanted kinda backwoods Michigan guy who'd hunted rabbits with a bow and arrow when he was a kid but then again when someone else arrived I bowed out gracefully then asked if I could check out his stuff to which he said yes then I proceeded to touch that which I know he might have gotten a little precious about... I'm naughty.
You know a hand built guitar is far superior to any fancy brand name. Famous guitar players aren't actually playing a 'Gibson' or a 'Fender' such as one could buy in a shop. I don't think these 'big brands' actually build guitars at all anymore, but instead contract good luthiers to make hand built items. I had a Takamine I bought off the shelf, which was a nice bit of wood, then when the fretboard became worn I had it restored by a luthier. He put in thick guage frets and sanded the board smooth and tweeked the action - and the result was a guitar that played better than any store bought guitar. If I kept playing I would only buy custom built guitars.
A human Being
22-10-2015, 03:51 PM
Hugely important to have that time to ourselves, because for so much of our lives we're unconscious of what's going on inside. And unconsciousness of self is a recipe for suffering.
muffin
22-10-2015, 05:01 PM
When I say time to yourself, I don't mean listening to music, reading or other solitary activity. I mean not your phone, book, music etc. Just you without anything else.
There are spaces everywhere. For example, I take time to myself on my commute to and from the city each day. I simply close my eyes and sit there solely within my own company, with my own breathing, my own sensations, emotions and thoughts, completely disengaged from things apart from my own body and mind. There are spaces in ones daily life if you care to notice them.
Good afternoon Gem
Wonders why you close your eyes, when there's just as much beauty and wonder outside as there is within, in what you can see and feel.
That to me is like closing/shutting a part of me down.
Mr Interesting
22-10-2015, 07:17 PM
You know a hand built guitar is far superior to any fancy brand name. Famous guitar players aren't actually playing a 'Gibson' or a 'Fender' such as one could buy in a shop. I don't think these 'big brands' actually build guitars at all anymore, but instead contract good luthiers to make hand built items. I had a Takamine I bought off the shelf, which was a nice bit of wood, then when the fretboard became worn I had it restored by a luthier. He put in thick guage frets and sanded the board smooth and tweeked the action - and the result was a guitar that played better than any store bought guitar. If I kept playing I would only buy custom built guitars.
Simply put I think I want an actual good, as in great, guitar. I'm actually quite good player if I warm up and have something worthy of the talent that has built up over the years and can just watch those fingers do all kinds of stuff that sounds really good and as I get older it really does seem to be about the wood having been played with (as in built) in concert, pretty much, which how I might bring myself to playing it.
And it's not deserving at all but maybe about affinities, natural affinities making themselves known regardless of what the world might try to set upon itself by way of un-natural choice.
And to come right around the building after going around the corner and being back at the store front this to me is a big part of the lead up to time for ones self. That the affinities that appear as, and while yes an ideal might be to come from the inside out, our tendencies are to go from the outside in and so hands on with, as an example, bit's of wood in a raw state fashioned into useful items and then actually using them and getting to a state of just watching as the vagaries of doing are less about determining and more about following and listening cannot help but be what could be termed the 'proving grounds'
So while Mrs and Mr 'I'm finding myself' might enrol for classes of Yoga with a side of Mindfullness that unless affinities within and without of life are already tweaking the ears and grabbing the eyes I tend towards the idea that such mountains are very much higher than they might need to be and that instead of an entirely upward ascent the prevarication of tuning affinities might lead to the circuitous round and round said mountain as a mulberry bush.
The forest of deaf ears and the songbirds of converted teaching lead many to carnivals... nah, it's stopped, nuff said.
blackraven
22-10-2015, 07:36 PM
When I say time to yourself, I don't mean listening to music, reading or other solitary activity. I mean not your phone, book, music etc. Just you without anything else.
There are spaces everywhere. For example, I take time to myself on my commute to and from the city each day. I simply close my eyes and sit there solely within my own company, with my own breathing, my own sensations, emotions and thoughts, completely disengaged from things apart from my own body and mind. There are spaces in ones daily life if you care to notice them.
Last night I suddenly became aware of my disengagement with myself by sitting in a lit room watching TV. I wondered what it would be like to just simply have everything off, so I turned the TV off and the only light that was on in the house. I sat in what appeared to be complete blackness. It felt for an instant like I had become a non-being like my surroundings. I felt a sense of peace for a few moments in that state. Then when my eyes got used to the dark I began noticing the tiny power lights on the laptop, internet box, TV and coffee maker in the next room. Those tiny little lights at first were comforting, but at the same time I felt sad to see them. They weren't like the beauty of distant stars, just a reminder things are never as disconnected as I desire.
running
22-10-2015, 08:42 PM
When I say time to yourself, I don't mean listening to music, reading or other solitary activity. I mean not your phone, book, music etc. Just you without anything else.
There are spaces everywhere. For example, I take time to myself on my commute to and from the city each day. I simply close my eyes and sit there solely within my own company, with my own breathing, my own sensations, emotions and thoughts, completely disengaged from things apart from my own body and mind. There are spaces in ones daily life if you care to notice them.
Wonderful post gem. Thanks!
Good afternoon Gem
Wonders why you close your eyes, when there's just as much beauty and wonder outside as there is within, in what you can see and feel.
That to me is like closing/shutting a part of me down.
For me, closing eyes shuts out things that are apart from my own mind and body. Things still get in through my ears, like people's 'sst sst sst' from their headphones or the sniffling guy down the isle or the Chinese woman who talks on the phone the whole way. Nearly everyone is looking at something, reading, texting, gaming - and very few are admiring beauty or have a sense of wonder. I think a lot of people are rushed and busy and don't notice how much space there in in any day, then they might say, 'I never get any time to myself' or something, but I notice spaces everywhere - like when walking I notice there is a space between each step, but only if I care to notice.
muffin
23-10-2015, 04:43 AM
For me, closing eyes shuts out things that are apart from my own mind and body. Things still get in through my ears, like people's 'sst sst sst' from their headphones or the sniffling guy down the isle or the Chinese woman who talks on the phone the whole way. Nearly everyone is looking at something, reading, texting, gaming - and very few are admiring beauty or have a sense of wonder. I think a lot of people are rushed and busy and don't notice how much space there in in any day, then they might say, 'I never get any time to myself' or something, but I notice spaces everywhere - like when walking I notice there is a space between each step, but only if I care to notice.
In that I agree, very few have the time of day for the things around them, when they have all the time in the world, for what is time.
Ever day-dreamed in a world of your own, all those noise are in the background, if there at all.
As a child when your mother called out, did you always hear her or in a world of your own ?
As for me, in a sense it's like being the watcher, standing back and begin aware of the things around you, more in what you feel, seeing is a another story, in that you have to go alot further than day dreaming.
In that I agree, very few have the time of day for the things around them, when they have all the time in the world, for what is time.
I don't know what time is, but as a musician, time is rhythm and tempo, and even though there are precise measures of time in the world or the song, the musician's mind is timeless, but I feel, because we are raised by the clock with the school bell and so on, peoples' minds become trained into the worldly time of tick tocks, instead of remaining like the musician's continual mental space.
Ever day-dreamed in a world of your own, all those noise are in the background, if there at all.
As a child when your mother called out, did you always hear her or in a world of your own ?
As for me, in a sense it's like being the watcher, standing back and begin aware of the things around you, more in what you feel, seeing is a another story, in that you have to go alot further than day dreaming.
I usually notice when my mind slips out of the continuum and enters the worldly time, and I realise like, 'oh, there I go thinking into time'. So, I know it's possible to be aware that moment when the timeless mind becomes caught up with the timely world.
Sarian
05-12-2015, 06:11 PM
I do out of a necessity it seems. If I'm driving, I can't bear any noise. I don't want to hear noise, the music, the blathering. I want quiet. While I can't for obvious reasons close my eyes while driving, I go inside and try and find quiet and I do become aware of breathing and things like that. I go out running; sometimes I just stop and find a place away and simply sit and close my eyes and sometimes not, but I am not really seeing anything. It's like a necessity for me to do this. quiet and still myself and shut my own head noise off. At home I have to shut everything off and unplug and go away, if you will.
If I'm having a particularly bad time with emotions, I think on them and the why and while I'm not very good on meditating, it's been good at allowing me to disengage from troubling feelings/thoughts and be okay.
Silver
05-12-2015, 06:36 PM
There is one beautiful moment from when I was a kid, that comes back to me on enough occasions to liken it to shutting out everything else - turns out it was a very cool thing: We had a big flat side yard, and on a couple of days here and there, I'd lay out in the yard, not far from the lilac tree that was next to the garage and just look up into the sky, and it happened to be fairly cloudless, and there would be this one plane, droning from far up there - it seemed impossibly high up there - that is the only sound I heard at that moment, and it just seemed amazing to me and I didn't know why but I understand it now. Clear. mind.
Shinsoo
05-12-2015, 07:12 PM
I am destined to spend a lot of time with myself on this path--getting to know the stillness, the quiet. It's not easy, especially with an overactive mind like my own.
But I do admit sometimes, after a good session, I do feel quite relaxed. And part of me is very eager to just meditate after work to process all the energies.
running
05-12-2015, 07:21 PM
When I say time to yourself, I don't mean listening to music, reading or other solitary activity. I mean not your phone, book, music etc. Just you without anything else.
There are spaces everywhere. For example, I take time to myself on my commute to and from the city each day. I simply close my eyes and sit there solely within my own company, with my own breathing, my own sensations, emotions and thoughts, completely disengaged from things apart from my own body and mind. There are spaces in ones daily life if you care to notice them.
Truck driving. Sometimes without choice cause theres no radio stations available. Lol
Clover
05-12-2015, 07:25 PM
Truck driving. Sometimes without choice cause theres no radio stations available. Lol
I can see this. I love to take long drives that take me absolutely nowhere. Music or not, It gives good time for thought and clarity. Very refreshing. I feel good after a drive sometimes.
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Truck driving. Sometimes without choice cause theres no radio stations available. Lol
Driving is a good one - and when you forget your destination and are just going along - it's really the open road. The test is probably in traffic jams, which are very peculiar psychologically, because each person feels that they are being inconvenienced by it, as though it is separate to themselves, yet each one of them is a part of the thing that they find so inconvenient.
running
05-12-2015, 10:54 PM
Driving is a good one - and when you forget your destination and are just going along - it's really the open road. The test is probably in traffic jams, which are very peculiar psychologically, because each person feels that they are being inconvenienced by it, as though it is separate to themselves, yet each one of them is a part of the thing that they find so inconvenient.
For four months i was dealing with the bay area almost daily and i cant say i liked it. Lol. Typically most often when it comes to extreme traffic has been driving in and out of los angelos which is quite a challenge. It still works but not so well if you dont keep patiece in mind. Lol. Both areas are high traffic in the states.
running
05-12-2015, 10:55 PM
I can see this. I love to take long drives that take me absolutely nowhere. Music or not, It gives good time for thought and clarity. Very refreshing. I feel good after a drive sometimes.
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I find it a great way to get paid for spiritual growth
For four months i was dealing with the bay area almost daily and i cant say i liked it. Lol. Typically most often when it comes to extreme traffic has been driving in and out of los angelos which is quite a challenge. It still works but not so well if you dont keep patiece in mind. Lol. Both areas are high traffic in the states.
I guess patience is another important aspect of spiritual life, so here's to traffic!
DoctorStrange
06-12-2015, 06:51 AM
When I say time to yourself, I don't mean listening to music, reading or other solitary activity. I mean not your phone, book, music etc. Just you without anything else.
There are spaces everywhere. For example, I take time to myself on my commute to and from the city each day. I simply close my eyes and sit there solely within my own company, with my own breathing, my own sensations, emotions and thoughts, completely disengaged from things apart from my own body and mind. There are spaces in ones daily life if you care to notice them.
I also felt the importance of own personal space. It so essential for growth.
CosmicHealer
06-12-2015, 09:19 AM
one self is always a focus, I start to realize if one is not with itself, it effects others in similar patterns. It's always to focus on ourselves
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