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feohgoddess
12-08-2006, 11:27 AM
hi everyone!

im sorry if im not in the right forum. i am seeking advice on healing myself emotionally. well its not actually ME that needs the healing, but when i'm around others i always pick up on their feelings to the point where sometimes i'm overwhelmed. i don't know how to protect myself from this, but when someone i know is depressed or moody or just negative period i tend to absorb that in. it happens when i'm around positive people as well, but that doesnt bother me lol


i was wondering if anybody had any advice on how to let these feelings go? sometimes i feel burdened by this. it is really hard at times even if i see the person for 5 minutes, it can put a damper on my day or is lingering in my mind.


any thoughts or comments i would appreciate any advice or opinions. thank you

love & light

devolution
12-08-2006, 12:25 PM
I know what you mean...
I seem to be affected by this too - sometimes when I walk by some people, I can sense great anger or negative energy from them, and it is almost like I am drowning in their thoughts - it's not a pleasant experience and I do get worked up by it and it takes me a while to calm down and get over the thoughts and energy...

There are protection exercises - where you can imagine yourself surrounded by a sphere of light which can protect your soul from other people's energies...

Here are some links:
http://www.bellaonline.com/articles/art32977.asp
http://home.vicnet.net.au/~johnf/defence.htm

lumas
12-08-2006, 01:29 PM
it is a great gift you have to be able to feel others emotions it means you are strong spiritually replace those negative thoughts with ones of love and compassion for that person once done the negative thoughts will likewise leave you. try it!!

feohgoddess
13-08-2006, 08:33 AM
thank you devolution and lumus. i will do my best to keep things balanced. its just that i notice that even if im thinking of a person, i get their emotions. or when a so called friend is on my mind, i can feel how they really don't like me you know?

when it comes to my aunt, my wrists hurt, my head hurts and my stomach churns at times. she is genuinly a wonderful person, but when she's stressed boy can i ever feel it! i will try my hardest to protect my spirit. tahnk you very much!

lumas
13-08-2006, 11:40 AM
when you get those feelings send out healing thoughts to your aunt its called absent healing and ask your spirit guides who are working with you to take those pains away from you.

biyu_wolf_77
13-08-2006, 06:36 PM
on the 1st message simalar fer me(just different like many things) have you ever heard of a psy vamp??(dont bother lookin it up) cuse im kinda like one only concider it a part-empath ability as (yea ill leech energy from those im chattin with at times but i guess it isnt THAT bad)if one of my friends isnt dooin too good ill pickup on the negative emotions clear as day but posative is harder im often struggellin with it but have learned to well "be a worrior" about it ill notice it then eighter notify the teacher or just try to let it go usially stays with me--keep in mind i dont like havin shelds or the like so im more seceptible to that stuff

just another day in my crazy life

kundalini
13-08-2006, 08:12 PM
on the 1st message simalar fer me(just different like many things) have you ever heard of a psy vamp??(dont bother lookin it up) cuse im kinda like one only concider it a part-empath ability as (yea ill leech energy from those im chattin with at times but i guess it isnt THAT bad)if one of my friends isnt dooin too good ill pickup on the negative emotions clear as day but posative is harder im often struggellin with it but have learned to well "be a worrior" about it ill notice it then eighter notify the teacher or just try to let it go usially stays with me--keep in mind i dont like havin shelds or the like so im more seceptible to that stuff

just another day in my crazy life

Hi biyu_wolf_77, you are actually wrong when you call yourself a 'psychic vampire'. A 'psychic vampire' is in fact a person who makes the OTHER person in their company feel drained of energy, whether they do it consciously or not. You do, in fact, as you suggested, possess empathic abilities.

As far as protection goes, here is an exercise I posted in another thread which was similar to this one so feohgoddess and anyone else reading this, I hope it helps.

It is upto you of course, if you do the following exercise. It may be interesting to do it just the once and see how you feel.

Ok, this is pretty much a visualisation technique and so I suppose it is something that should be done, once a day, preferably in the morning. First, visualise a sphere of SILVER light around the whole of your body which will be your protection from the world.

Then, gradually, pull this light towards you until it follows the outline of your body. You don't need to pull this light in too tight. Apparently, about 30cm ( 12 inches ) is close enough. Tell yourself or KNOW that it is in place. Then you can forget about it. It will remain there until you consciously WILL it to dissolve.

This is why I said it is probably best to do it once a day, just to reaffirm it to yourself. The silver sphere will serve as protection against hostile psychic energy and will protect you from picking up negativity off others.

Thanks for reading, Kundalini.

biyu_wolf_77
13-08-2006, 08:32 PM
Hi biyu_wolf_77, you are actually wrong when you call yourself a 'psychic vampire'. A 'psychic vampire' is in fact a person who makes the OTHER person in their company feel drained of energy, whether they do it consciously or not. You do, in fact, as you suggested, possess empathic abilities.

As far as protection goes, here is an exercise I posted in another thread which was similar to this one so feohgoddess and anyone else reading this, I hope it helps.

It is upto you of course, if you do the following exercise. It may be interesting to do it just the once and see how you feel.

Ok, this is pretty much a visualisation technique and so I suppose it is something that should be done, once a day, preferably in the morning. First, visualise a sphere of SILVER light around the whole of your body which will be your protection from the world.

Then, gradually, pull this light towards you until it follows the outline of your body. You don't need to pull this light in too tight. Apparently, about 30cm ( 12 inches ) is close enough. Tell yourself or KNOW that it is in place. Then you can forget about it. It will remain there until you consciously WILL it to dissolve.

This is why I said it is probably best to do it once a day, just to reaffirm it to yourself. The silver sphere will serve as protection against hostile psychic energy and will protect you from picking up negativity off others.

Thanks for reading, Kundalini.
ok im me some day after awhile youll likely notice im drainin ya just not an extreame amount and like i said id rather not use any protection or the like when it comes to my abilities if i like say get alot of sadness and wanna cry ive gotta learn to figure out who its from and know it could be across the world (once "friend" was across the buildin cryin i pickedup on it foundout the next day and art teacher that i had knows of some of my gifts)

kundalini
13-08-2006, 09:12 PM
ok im me some day after awhile youll likely notice im drainin ya just not an extreame amount and like i said id rather not use any protection or the like when it comes to my abilities if i like say get alot of sadness and wanna cry ive gotta learn to figure out who its from and know it could be across the world (once "friend" was across the buildin cryin i pickedup on it foundout the next day and art teacher that i had knows of some of my gifts)

You know that's highly interesting what you said about wanting to experience the emotions so you will know who it's from etc. The thing is though, with a protective exercise such as this you will still be able to sense other's energies but IMO it will not overwhelm you and will allow to look at the emotion with some detachment. Do you understand what I mean?

biyu_wolf_77
13-08-2006, 10:03 PM
You know that's highly interesting what you said about wanting to experience the emotions so you will know who it's from etc. The thing is though, with a protective exercise such as this you will still be able to sense other's energies but IMO it will not overwhelm you and will allow to look at the emotion with some detachment. Do you understand what I mean?
i think so but guess im just usted ta it beein like im that way even tho i know im not once i figure out where its comin from it should be better(like that one instance i brought up id just ask the teacher to go to the guidance office cause theres somethin i need ta do tell that "friend" that his sadness brought me there and see from that try to help and likely the closer i am to physically to him from origon point to where i was the better it is fer me as ill have some sence of him yet but know how to help)

kundalini
13-08-2006, 10:19 PM
i think so but guess im just usted ta it beein like im that way even tho i know im not once i figure out where its comin from it should be better(like that one instance i brought up id just ask the teacher to go to the guidance office cause theres somethin i need ta do tell that "friend" that his sadness brought me there and see from that try to help and likely the closer i am to physically to him from origon point to where i was the better it is fer me as ill have some sence of him yet but know how to help)

I think I see your point but just remember that if these feelings start to overwhelm you to the degree that you don't feel you can function without feeling that way, then you should most definetely think about using protection techniques, IMO. Kundalini.

biyu_wolf_77
13-08-2006, 10:23 PM
I think I see your point but just remember that if these feelings start to overwhelm you to the degree that you don't feel you can function without feeling that way, then you should most definetely think about using protection techniques, IMO. Kundalini.
rightnow its only a few friends that this seems to work with and i dont think any of them can get that bad but if it happens ill figure a way to lower it some and fallback on my abilities(even tho i think there all intertwined fun int it??)

daisy
14-08-2006, 01:08 AM
sounds like you're a natural empath to me, you should be able to find some info on this somewhere, that said spiritually aware people and psychics tend to be very sensitive and pick up on others emotions easily, hope this helps xx

biyu_wolf_77
14-08-2006, 01:42 AM
sounds like you're a natural empath to me, you should be able to find some info on this somewhere, that said spiritually aware people and psychics tend to be very sensitive and pick up on others emotions easily, hope this helps xx
part of my gifts are somewhat psycic tendiancys when its not "reccomended" and even some channeling but im still not shure why i only pickup on negative emotions so yea

kundalini
14-08-2006, 05:17 PM
part of my gifts are somewhat psycic tendiancys when its not "reccomended" and even some channeling but im still not shure why i only pickup on negative emotions so yea

Hi biyu_wolf_77,

Have you considered that the only reason you pick up on negative emotions is because you emanate them same emotions yourself more strongly than positive emotions?

There is a spiritual way of thinking that suggests we only see in others what we need to learn to deal with ourselves. Does this help you at all? Kundalini.

biyu_wolf_77
14-08-2006, 05:43 PM
Hi biyu_wolf_77,

Have you considered that the only reason you pick up on negative emotions is because you emanate them same emotions yourself more strongly than positive emotions?

There is a spiritual way of thinking that suggests we only see in others what we need to learn to deal with ourselves. Does this help you at all? Kundalini.
in a way yea (part of it is ive given up on some posative emotions cause of whats happened in this short life and ive removed fear--no really it seemed too easy too-- but one of the main things is i literally loved a place that i went to school they tore it down so now if one that knows me or knows that deatail about me hears me say the word they know it has no meaning kinda hidin my self from worse things if ya could say plus when im at school im compleately different from home online im some combo so yea fun stuff)call me crazy but i think my moms negativity is likely some to the blame as im allways or so it seems around her negativity and arent parents to encurage kids?? i hear that i cant get to miad that i wont pass hiugh school on time when sofar im on trac to lets see everytime i want somethin unless its pratically dirt cheap its unlikely ill ever get it(shees a nurse that hates her job too)i wanted a mac laptop(the black one) she offered to get the cheapest one just cause it hads nuthin past ilife that id want if atleast some of that dont promote negativity peas tell me what would

i could rant on an on about her but i think ill stop here

kundalini
14-08-2006, 06:13 PM
in a way yea (part of it is ive given up on some posative emotions cause of whats happened in this short life and ive removed fear--no really it seemed too easy too-- but one of the main things is i literally loved a place that i went to school they tore it down so now if one that knows me or knows that deatail about me hears me say the word they know it has no meaning kinda hidin my self from worse things if ya could say plus when im at school im compleately different from home online im some combo so yea fun stuff)call me crazy but i think my moms negativity is likely some to the blame as im allways or so it seems around her negativity and arent parents to encurage kids?? i hear that i cant get to miad that i wont pass hiugh school on time when sofar im on trac to lets see everytime i want somethin unless its pratically dirt cheap its unlikely ill ever get it(shees a nurse that hates her job too)i wanted a mac laptop(the black one) she offered to get the cheapest one just cause it hads nuthin past ilife that id want if atleast some of that dont promote negativity peas tell me what would

i could rant on an on about her but i think ill stop here

Whilst reading your post, a thought suddenly came to me. It was while I was reading that last sentence 'if at least some of that don't promote negativity please tell me what would?' It has suddenly occured to me that you do have empathic abilities and I think this would help you:

Next time a person around you is in a negative mood and they are putting you on a 'downer' because you are picking up on their emotions, instead of just giving in to that feeling and letting it make you depressed, why don't you try 'flipping' the situation instead?

What I mean in simpler terms, is when this happens, think about what you can do to improve that person's mood. Focus on happiness and joy. I am certain that if you do this, you will see a dramatic improvement in this area of your life. This will be because instead of your energy being pulled inwards like when you feel depressed, well, when you think about what you can do for other people, your energy will expand outwards. At the very least, I think you should give this a go but it is your decision. Thanks for reading, Kundalini.

biyu_wolf_77
14-08-2006, 07:03 PM
Whilst reading your post, a thought suddenly came to me. It was while I was reading that last sentence 'if at least some of that don't promote negativity please tell me what would?' It has suddenly occured to me that you do have empathic abilities and I think this would help you:

Next time a person around you is in a negative mood and they are putting you on a 'downer' because you are picking up on their emotions, instead of just giving in to that feeling and letting it make you depressed, why don't you try 'flipping' the situation instead?

What I mean in simpler terms, is when this happens, think about what you can do to improve that person's mood. Focus on happiness and joy. I am certain that if you do this, you will see a dramatic improvement in this area of your life. This will be because instead of your energy being pulled inwards like when you feel depressed, well, when you think about what you can do for other people, your energy will expand outwards. At the very least, I think you should give this a go but it is your decision. Thanks for reading, Kundalini.
i know im part empath(i say part cause of what i pickup) and if i could pinpoint atleast where its comin from itd help (lets say one of my friends--i proubly allready mentioned this situation-- had i known where he was then id of been able to help him better then feelin like i wanna cry and had been able to do somethin outher then just sit there tell the teacher after class then the next day thayt it was him) so yea theres more learnin to do with my gifts but there good fer now if i rember next time ill have ta try and see where its comin from maby take them to "see" pure energy(its amasin just well all i can say is butiful im me and ill try to show ya)

and i do leech some energy like where my ericson has 16 day standby only lasted just over 1 week with talkin and nowdaty im usted to its energy signature where im shure when its on me i take some energy from the battery(once went from like 44 to 22 then later returned to 44)