Seven
27-03-2012, 08:35 PM
So up until now, I've been single, I had my way of life figured out and answers were always effortless, I was highly intuitive. Now that I'm a recent father and husband (about 9 months to both) all of that is gone and I have no idea who I am or how to make things flow like they did before. I believe I'm in the process of rebuilding myself to fit a way of life that has always been alien to me.
So anyway, if i'm not screwing up things for another, I'm screwing themselves up for me. Being lost and confused all the time has caused me to slowly build some strong passive aggression and now I find myself starting silly ignorant arguments and making things worse for myself and others. You'd think from what I've said so far that I can't be a very happy man, but my life is nothing short of perfect now..excluding this process. If i'm not plotting to screw my co-worker's tires, I'm wanting to make someone feel dumb and wrong like I feel now. This is completely out of my nature, I need to vent, but I don't know how.
Earlier today my wife took the kid out and wouldn't tell me where they were going. At first I thought it would be fun, so I hid outside as they were leaving and jumped in her car and trailed them (she took my car) I lost them...so I decided to look for possible places. after 30 minutes I just got frustrated and started thinking negatively and I knew I was being ridiculous but more than anything I wanted to be upset and frustrated with someone other than myself. So I decided that she was a b**** for leaving me alone while I'd been wanting to go out and do something with them all morning. An hour later, they come home and I'm a total jerk while she's trying to show off the work they put into cleaning my car.
This behavior is absolute insanity in my eyes. I've never been the jerk, I simply don't get angry, I get sad. I'm not sure how to cope with or vent the changes. I've always been the suppressing type.
Thanks for any advice.
So anyway, if i'm not screwing up things for another, I'm screwing themselves up for me. Being lost and confused all the time has caused me to slowly build some strong passive aggression and now I find myself starting silly ignorant arguments and making things worse for myself and others. You'd think from what I've said so far that I can't be a very happy man, but my life is nothing short of perfect now..excluding this process. If i'm not plotting to screw my co-worker's tires, I'm wanting to make someone feel dumb and wrong like I feel now. This is completely out of my nature, I need to vent, but I don't know how.
Earlier today my wife took the kid out and wouldn't tell me where they were going. At first I thought it would be fun, so I hid outside as they were leaving and jumped in her car and trailed them (she took my car) I lost them...so I decided to look for possible places. after 30 minutes I just got frustrated and started thinking negatively and I knew I was being ridiculous but more than anything I wanted to be upset and frustrated with someone other than myself. So I decided that she was a b**** for leaving me alone while I'd been wanting to go out and do something with them all morning. An hour later, they come home and I'm a total jerk while she's trying to show off the work they put into cleaning my car.
This behavior is absolute insanity in my eyes. I've never been the jerk, I simply don't get angry, I get sad. I'm not sure how to cope with or vent the changes. I've always been the suppressing type.
Thanks for any advice.